every time I go anywhere where there are girls and guys, I start comparing myself to other guys. I think this is the major cause of my detriment. when I go somewhere, I think "this guy is taller than me" "I am so short" "this guy is better dressed than me" "this guy is more confident than me" "this guy is richer than me" but mostly, I compare height.

I am 5'5" and I know you guys always say forget about it, but you have no idea how humiliating it feels when a girl is taller than you (or appears taller than you because of heels)

lets assume the average girl is 5'3" (which is not true, I think the average is higher)
most, if not all, girls wear heels at social and meet-up places. Heels add 3 inches.
This means the average girl that I approach at a social gathering is going to be already 5'6"
humiliating? yeah.
before anyone suggests this, I will NOT wear lifts. I guess you could say I have an ethical problem with it. I would not like it if a flat chested girl made me believe she had DDs.

back to the comparison problem. I am tired of comparing myself. If I was at a place where there are only girls and I was the only guy, I would have great game. this is a fact, I have been in such situation once and my confidence shot through the roof.

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I have not failed 10,000 times. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work. - Edison

There you go. PROOF that it's all in your mind. Pretend that you found out later there was some dude there that day but you just didn't know about it. Did his presence make your game any worse? NO, because you were unaware of him.

When I go out I don't even register the guys I don't even think about them; they are non-entities when it comes to "gaming". What matters is you, the girl and the connection you make; the rest of the world fades into the unseen distance.

PRETEND you're the only guy there; that is precisely how I for one feel when sarging.