So I met a girl at work a few weeks who is extremely hot, body like Kim K. She's a receptionist and went out of her way and drove to get me a small pack cookies after I jokingly complained about the company not having chocolate chip cookies. I was extremely flattered.

Anyways I initiated emails and we had great small convos, went to lunch 3 times. The last time being the best lunch we had, lots of flirtatious vibes, had her laughing, we had ongoing joke with her teaching me a different language and even said we should make a bet (i thought of bet scenarios over the weekend)....now over weekend and start of week, emails are dead, I get a "lol ok' replies. I try not to text her at all, I know I will look desperate. JUst emails. On 2nd lunch I noticed inside her desk area, she had a photo of her kissing her bf and looked like a photo of them together with child, it was first time in her desk area. However the whole time we spoke, she sounded like a single party girl. Never any reference to her bf or child, assuming it's hers.

My rep is not great at work and I'm actually talking to someone from different department, different building. However now that it's died down I'm becoming obsessed with this chick, cant get her out of my mind.

Do I still try to chase her?

I take "lol ok" as either come over here and talk to me in person or stop talking to me period. I received these type of replies before, only to ask her to lunch next day without any issue. When we're together in person it's beautiful, not so much via text or email.

There's not much information provided, but I'll try my best... when a girl gets cold like that, its usually either because shes bored of you not making a move to escalate things... or there's another guy involved.


With the picture, its safe to assume that there's another guy - things were smooth with you while they were rocky with him, but now they're back together and shes trying to cool things off and friendzone you.

With your oneitis, its safe to say that you're over-thinking things, and probably a little too nervous to escalate, incase you get knocked back (have you tried to date her, or have you kept using the language jokes to start conversations that don't really have a purpose?)

So yea, I'd say its a mixture of both. If I were in your position, I'd think about a few things:

1. If they are together, and you manage to bang her... do you really want more than that with her? She'd cheat on you once a guy with half decent game came along.

2. If they're on the verge of splitting up, you've got a good chance - you just need to be her best option, don't go chasing her... right into his arms.

3. He has a lot of history with her... that could either make things really hard, or really easy for you.

Invite her out on a date (don't ask, invite) to do something fun. Check my signature, first date ideas, don't do a typical movie/dinner type of thing.

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Thanks for that will do.

I've only met her for over 3 weeks. I remember a co-worker telling me she a bf. Not to be judgmental but he looks like a gangster and he might be in jail.

Since meeting her the emails were strong, even on last friday...we ended the day off strong with the email implying we were going to setup a crazy bet...i got nervous about this, didnt want to come off strong and say if I win, we go on a date. I'll try to get her to lunch again and ask her out on a date.

I'm getting bad vibes from this girl and the whole situation you laid out. Go meet more women and the one-itus will go away immediately.

As long as your emotionally involved to the point where you have to post to randoms on the internet about her she i;; always be out of reach. Energetically you are pushing her away and its draining you, which is why you are not relying on us.

I wish more guys understood this.

You can have her in the next second if you reverted back to the guy you were on the 3rd lunch emotionally. A woman is attracted to a mans emotional state. And right now your isn't looking to appealing. Stop posting on the forum, get your mind right and get the girl man.

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Thanks for responses, very helpful.

Well it's to the point where game and text is dead. I'll wait a few weeks walk over to her department and casually ask her to lunch. I find fault in not escalating quickly but then again i figured go slow since we work for same company, it will eventually lead to an office romance.

I think I just got a major case of onenitits but should be flattered that this hot chick with a bf was interested to begin with to mess around but i showed her too much respect...I just cant get over that kim k ASS!!!!

I feel ya there. The ass on a woman is my weakness as well lol.