There's this hot chick who I've recently become extremely attracted to. She knows who I am through mutual friends and living in a local community. We spoke once when out drinking, but it was nothing to try and pick her up or anything like that.

We became Facebook friends the same evening and sent a few drunken messages that night, but again nothing I'd consider to be pick up. Recently she followed me on Instagram and I've not seen her since that night, and this was around 2 months ago. I work in a gym and see her there sometimes but I've been off for a while so haven't seen her since that evening.

Anyway, my question is... How should I approach this? Am I best waiting until I'm at work and see her before starting to build some rapport? Or should I just Facebook her something brief and try to get a date?

She doesn't know me at all really other than that brief drunken interaction, therefore I don't want to be creepy. But this fact gives me a good chance to come across in an attractive manner as I have not done anything to fuck up yet. The issue I have talking with girls when working is I have to be careful and remain professional in my job. I wouldn't want to get complaints, scare girls from working out etc..

It's fair to say that I have built no attraction yet and she would have no idea I find her attractive either. Does this make a direct message asking if she wants to go for a coffee a bit too much to begin with?

I'd appreciate any views on this.

Thanks

If you think she is attracted to you at least a bit you can chat with her for a while on FB and try call or text her to arrange a date later on.

If she is not attracted to you it will better bet to try to do this in person - for instance while in the gym you say there are other girls there, and if you could demonstrate (not obviously or on purpose) to her that you are preselected or social guy it will trigger attraction in her. And from then on should opt for the date etc.

I would really strive for raising my value and building attraction.

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What do you mean 'say there are other girls there'? Do you mean talk to her about other girls, or actually talk to other girls when she is there?

Am I right in thinking social proof/preselection is about being seen as a social guy around people and especially around other women who look like they are enjoying your company? I did use this approach once before with 2 hot girls I work with, they were working out at the time and I was having a laugh with them whilst my target was in the same room who could clearly notice.

I believe I have plenty of DHV stories which are all natural and real life stories from my life. I can also look into some cold reading techniques for a little later, use some fun kino which I've done previously. This time my main issue is creating an attraction, and letting her know I am attracted to her. Or possibly adding some confusion which some push-pull.