Hey guys here's what's up I slipped up with a girl I was dating although I'm cartain I'm handling it properly some educated outside opinions/insight are always good. Here's what's up. Been dating this girl things were good I probably pursued more than I should have, but it really wasn't an issue of chasing because if I was doing something cool I'd invite her to come along if she could she would if she couldn't she wouldn't, but the times where she couldn't she'd ask me what I did where I went who I went with. Imo a sign of high interest as well as insecurity. Anyway she was away on holiday's when she got back we were gonna hang go out it didn't work. I had some free time the next day due to weather so I texted her she gave me a wishy washy reply, and bluffed to test my strength I knew what was going on so I brushed it off like nothing and passed that test not only that I said I'd call her the next day and didn't that drove her crazy and now she's pursuing and set up the date. All is good we go out have a great time nothing fancy, but a good time nonetheless lots of teasing kino what not plus I had a much more alpha frame and she took notice and was more submissive something I worked on while she was away.

Anyway she's busting on me for not replying to an fb invite she sent me so I give it back to her. Then the next day I text her some call back humor about the fb thing again everything is good. Here is where I slip up we had talked about going to a local concert that weekend so I hit her up to see what she's up too if she's able to make it out (I got free tickets from a friend) she picked up a work shift couldn't make it no big deal she had said earlier she would really like to go, but it hadn't got her weekend schedule. Nothing of any concern I text her back about an hour later and say no worries, but I'm gonna need to grab my coat from you (she kept it from our last date) and that I'll give her a call next week sometime. She says ok sounds good! So 4 days later I call her up just before 5pm (bad time) she was at work, but I didn't know different schedule every week. We sent a couple texts back and forth, but I sensed some distance and she didn't reply to my last text. Then it hit me like a ton of motherfucking bricks the absolute rookie mistake I'm making I'm better than this.

So I realized what I was doing I physically slapped myself across the face and was like Gun smarten the fuck up you're better then this!! You give ppl advice on thos very fucking forum on how to get out of shit like this and now you're walking that same fucking path. Anyway I slammed on the brakes with both feet as hard as I could. Gave her a week to cool off reset any pressure I put on her then I called her up to get my coat back no answer left a VM she texted me later on. I was like ok time to get back to my old self I reply with I have plans tonight, but if you're around tomorrow night I'll swing by and grab it. Instant reply with ya I'll be home. I reply with cool. I'll swing by then. Then later that night she sends me an fb invite to a fitness competition she's putting on. Nothing huge, but I take it as a sign she's thinking of me. Next day I text her to make sure she's gonna be around get a distant response she just said no. So I wait 20 min and call her no answer. So I text her ok let me know when you're free.

She replies later with I just got home. I say cool just out with some friends I'll stop by in about 1/2hr she says ok. I get there we talk a bit things are good not great, but good we talk a while as I'm leaving she gives me a hug calls me sweetie. Which kinda led me to believe maybe I'm overthinking this and assuming things, but her being distant that was real I'm just not sure what the root cause of it was I'm sure it was based on my weak un masculine behaviour, but some of it could be based on the fact she had a long week.

Anyway the fact remains I pushed to hard the door didn't open so I stepped back read the sign that clearly says pull so that's what I'm doing now and pulling back. Now the thing is it was a rookie mistake on my part I've gotta man up and take responsibility for my weak behaviour, but I've been going through some hard times and I enjoyed spending time with her hanging out with her and I pursued that feeling of comfort harder then I should have. I know what I did wrong I'm not gonna bullshit anyone here I acted weak I tried to be a superhuman piller of strength, but I caved and she saw some weakness in my over contacting that she shouldn't have seen, but with that being said I'm sure what I've done right is stronger then what I've done wrong and some time and space to let her miss me will fix this fuck up. I haven't contacted her since we talked that night I thought I'll let her be the next one to make contact, and if her interest level is high enough she will if not there's steps I can take to raise it. And its been a little over a week now I don't know if this has anything to do with anything, but like I said in a previous thread we don't have any common activity on fb, but I went on a road trip with some buddies posted some cool pics videos was tagged in some pics with some hot girls by some hot girls, and I noticed on my fb friends list earlier she wasn't in my 10 list, but as soon as those pics/videos were posted she shot up to the top ahead of ppl I interact with daily. I don't know if that means she creeps my page constantly looks through my pics or what. I don't know what the algorithims detect. Anyway to end off this long ass thread basically I pushed too hard she got distant I pulled back hard did not chase whatsoever, and now I'm letting her come to me at my own pace. I'm confident she'll hit me up whether that's sooner or later because even though I fucked up I've done everything right since that fuck up and at the end of the day I'm only human I'm gonna fuck up at some point, but the important thing is I'm out having fun enjoying life dating plenty of other women I'm in abundance however I would like to be with this girl, and I'm hoping to reatract her basically by doing nothing showing my strength and having her step back and be like oh maybe I totally misread him maybe he's not needy or clingy maybe I over reacted in getting distant I should call him or I may never see him again. (Example from a Corey Wayne video)

So as always educated input is always appreciated I'm confident I'm handling this right, but outside opinions are always helpful and appreciated thanks!!