Hey everybody,

I'm new to the forum, hoping u can take a second to post your advice it will be greatly appreciated...

Started dating this girl 4 months ago... im 26 and shes 24... great relationship heres some key facts:

-A month into the relationship she told me she loves me
-shortly after she started talking about us getting married
-had sex in the 3rd month but wasnt good cuz i was wayyy too fast (my only problem she knew i was working on)
-introduced me to her family and they love me

About a month ago she went away for her last semester at college... we both agreed to give long distance a shot because we see a future together... we talked every night on the phone and everything seemed fine... two weeks in and she was telling me how shes stressed probably because she wanted to join the airforce and that recently fell through so shes uncertain about her future... she also occasionally asked if i was cheating and of course i wasnt... she has some insecurity issues... then she started acting weird on the phone and i got the vibe that she didnt want to continue the relationship (only a few days after she sent me $300 clothes and a birthday card telling me how much she loves me)

I facetimed her the following day and asked how she feels about us now that we are like 3 weeks into the long distance relationship... she kept saying "i dont know and i dont know what i want... im not a good girlfriend...at one point she said i dont look at the relationship with as much love and care as you do... that was a red flag to me so i said listen if ur not committed to making this work then we should end it... she said idk can i have time to think about it... i said no if u need time then forget it we are done... then she said fine bye and ended the facetime...

A week later i texted her "kegel exercises work!! (She knew i started doing them to last longer in bed) i had sex last night and lasted for an hour!!!" and included a screenshot from a girls text saying the sex was great (jealousy?)... she replied good for you happy for you leave me alone... i asked hows shes doing i still really care about you... she says good... a week later i text again and say i think the breakup was for the best and it would be a shame to throw away a great friendship... she said okay... i said id be lying ifi said i didnt miss u though i went out w 2 girls last weekend and it just wasnt tthe same as with u it sucked lol... she replies im busy right now doin homework i cant talk sorry... i said okay im going to sleep anyway got a big meeting in the morning to buy a store for my new cell phone business... she said okay goodnight


Its been almost 2 weeks of no contact since that text... what should i do? I really like this girl and shes the best girlfriend i ever had and i could see myself settling down with her... should i contact her again or let her contact me? What is she probably thinking? Please give me your advice....

You're not even giving her a chance to miss you at all. Then when you contact her, you act like an asshole and you're enjoying not being around her and then say you want her back. I don't think you can fix this at a distance. Just leave it alone and if she contacts you, then decide what you want to do.

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This was so, so, so stupid of you.

Jealousy works wonderfully if you're not BLATANTLY rubbing it in their faces.

You might have gotten her back before that. You're fucked now.

Should i apologize? Theres gota be a way to fix it

You just threw in her face that you're fucking another girl (complete with photos and details) a week after breaking up with her...

Would YOU take HER back if she did that to you?

Find another girl... even if you get her back it won't be the same... She's gonna fuck around on you and get back at you somehow.

I dont see how telling her you lasted an hour with another girl would work in any possible way but make her resent you more especially after a week.

I would just leave her alone and get other girls if you have her on facebook post pics of you enjoying yourself and having a good time. She may contact you out of jealousy saying you got over it no problem etc...

shot yourself in the foot though.

Good luck

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