Hey guys,

Recently went on a walk with a girl I'd been talking to a couple months ago. During this time I'd had the wrong set of mind and was thinking 'bone her in the fall' while I had her wrapped around my finger. Haha yah i know, not very smart.

Anyways I'd recently started thinking about her and reinitiated, had her attention completely. Told her I had a dream about her and she'd replied within one minute, got her to laugh ect ect. Anyways, the same night I got her to go on a walk with me, initial iois from her. Everything was going good until she wanted to hear the end of the dream - I had actually had a dream about her a couple nights ago.

I told her part of it and she wanted to know the end, so instead of telling her I told her I'd show her and went in for the kiss. Hahhh rejection. Was pretty funny, nothing like crashing and burning.

Anyways I walked her back to her dorm and had some regret not telling her how I felt, feeling bad about drifting away ect. I'm a natural born at that shit, if I say nc I mean nc. for good usually, it's actually a pretty bad habit to have and I hate it.

Anyways I'm not here for that, I want to know some exercises to just say what you wanna say in a pressured situation like this? When we'd met I was kind of the chill guy who she hit off with right away, met through friends btw so I didn't really show that kind of behavior in this situation and I don't care for it. I'm 99% of the time the guy fucking around to make myself laugh haha giveth no fucks

How confidant were you feeling right before you went in for the kiss?

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I'm looking at your situation from two sides. Never be ashamed of how you feel about things, so just get used to saying whatever is on your mind. No matter if it's right or wrong, be honest and vocalize it. There is no better practice than that.

That being said, unless it's a positive emotion about how you feel about a woman...it's best to keep that to yourself because you risk taking the role of the emotional one and she won't respect you as a man.

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Sorry for the late reply, don't usually get on the pc much.

Anyways, I was feeling hella confident with the kiss but I hesitated a little bit right before. She even called me out on not saying what I wanted to say right before, but with the initial kino on her part and ioi's I thought I was in the clear. After the attempt I kind of walked away but got my cool back and returned bull shitting with her.

Agreed, I had been working on saying the first thing that came to my mind with anyone before hand with great success, became a hell of a lot wittier and easier going but this is the first time in about a year or so I choked up with a girl and just couldn't do it with ease.

Besides the fact, I know she's still into me but I can't quite figure out how to get around it. If anything I want to succeed with this girl because 1) I'd succeed and 2) I'd learn that much more about what to do / what not to do.

If y'all got advice that'd be great, thinking about reinitiating contact if I don't hear from her in a week or so.

Also jumped the gun with the kino, didn't hold her hand at all or anything just light playful touching. I've taken some notes on the night just to see what sort of frame of mind I had at the time and I think I was coming off as not desperate, but maybe a little needy. I know if I can get her to hang out with me one more time I'm sure I can get it down. Wanted to add that in quick before I head to a day2 with another girl tonight. Again any advice would be awesome, just wanna better myself as a person.