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| bartm | PostPosted: Thu Sep 25, 2014 1:52 am | |
Joined: Fri Jul 29, 2011 3:51 am Posts: 994 | | I have this fear of offending people in general.
I understand that normally when you approach, you shouldnt care about the consequence. the worst case is she will get offended. who cares? even if she gets offended, you are in the same position as you were before.
but I am in a situation where I cannot afford to offend someone. Here is my situation: I work on the computer a lot and I go to this coffee shop during the day. It's not really a coffee shop, it's a place where you could get coffee or smoothie or even lunch. this place is pretty much my office.
there is a girl that works there that I am in love with. I have been meaning to talk to her but I cant afford to lose my office. If I get kicked out of there, I wont have anywhere else to go.
I dont know if my fear is justified or if I am overanalyzing everything the way I always do.
is there a safe way of talking to a girl in this situation so there is no chance I will get kicked out? _________________ I have not failed 10,000 times. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work. - Edison
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| Mastermind9000 | PostPosted: Thu Sep 25, 2014 2:15 am | |
| Offline | | MPUA Forum Zealot | Joined: Tue Apr 15, 2014 12:07 am Posts: 496 | | Dude, your additude fuck'n sucks. I'd say don't approach her. If you think saying hi is so offensive you might get kicked out she will smell it on you. And the idea that you are in love with a girl you don't know means you are needy as hell. Don't do it, you will fail, period.
Do other approaches on girls you won't see again until you biuld some confidence. It will take time and work, but you need it. If talking to this one girl has you that freaked out, it will show and you will fail. Infact, im willing to bet that you already stare at her, don't do that either. In this case, ignore her until she speaks to you, then just be friendly while you develop you mindset. You shouldn't have to worry about offending, you should think you are flattering her, doing her a favour.
Do more approaches and save her for the future.
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| fishnwomen | PostPosted: Thu Sep 25, 2014 1:39 pm | |
| Offline | | MPUA Forum Zealot |  | Joined: Mon May 20, 2013 3:38 pm Posts: 323 | | One of my best openers during the night is "Who the FUCK are you?" Think that is offensive? Girl's don't always think so.
Sometimes I get blown out, and the girl just leaves.
I have also gotten make outs in less than 30 seconds.
You could walk up to a girl, and she could find an excuse to be bitchy for almost any reason, no matter how nice you are. Who gives a flying fuck what she thinks? If she's having a bad day, that's her problem.
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