| If there was such thing as KARMA then you are doing an awful job at showing that you believe in it or that it had any affect on you as a person.
After getting cheated on, the first thing you do is decide to jump this girl's bones. I don't exactly say that you shouldn't or should have sex with this girl because I don't believe in a such thing called "rebounds" as so many others do.
Although, think about it and let it sink in. This girl is very receptive to you and that is a good thing indeed. She might just be looking for sex herself. There's no right, there's no wrong in this situation, but if you really feel sorrowful for your actions to get all the KARMA away from you then this would be a stupid move.
She seems to like you still even after you dumped her, you say there was nothing there physically or personality-wise that captivated you about her. I think that's not absolutely correct. Something captivated you for her to be your choice to run to each and every time you have a relationship problem. I've seen many, many times that individuals we think aren't the ones for us, or the individuals we used to run to are really the individuals that we are attracted to. So, in the end we're fooling ourselves. You really need to make sure you are telling the truth and not fooling yourself.
In the end, there's a few decisions or so and let me break them down for you so that you can decide which is the best course of action and sounds the most reasonable for you and your situation.
1. ) You fuck her. You did it once and you can do it again, but why? Just to get over someone? You're using her as a fix-all tool? Did it fix-all before? No you got back with your ex. This option sounds childish and it appears as if you can't stomach being alone. (No insulting intended, I apologize if any)
2. ) You apologize and move on. You tell her your reasoning for getting back in touch. That you feel completely ashamed of your actions and you would like to leave on a good basis with her, be it friends or acquaintances...whatever you choose. (Don't be a fuck buddy so soon...down the road is optional, like months)
3. ) Make her understand that you want something casual with her and that you would like to test the waters to see if anything could become something more concrete like a relationship. Don't tell her "friends with benefits" and don't tell her "fuck buddies" or "casual sex"...Just call it dating, but just to get to know each other more. (She'll either hate the idea or love it. )
4. ) Ask her what she wants. Leave it up to her. Tell her your situation and apologize, but now find out why is she so receptive? Ask her like a questionnaire, but try to be a little subtle if you can. Look deep into her eyes, smile and ask her gently, but not forcefully. Then decide by what she says, if it's friends, casual sex, a relationship, or just acquaintances...you need to find out and decide what's best for her and what's a little good for you, haha. Along with this decision look at all my options and really consider what you want to do and if you really can't decide which, some individuals are indecisive like me, then tell her you need time to think about it and you'll get back to her soon. Also this way she knows you're not just going to use her again, not going to just wander off with your ex or some bimbo down the street and that builds even more trust.
With all that I've said she seems like she either has a thing for you or just likes your sex. But if you can build more trust by not initiating sex right away and ask her what she wants I think she'll be putty in your hands even more than she was or is now. I don't know the full situation of how you ended things with her, but all these options still are the best and probably only options. I also wondered if she knew your ex or knows of your ex through mutual acquaintances or friends. But I'm not knocking into your whole life story...it sounds like an interesting situation and I sincerely hope the best for you man. Honestly I'm sure you can guess the (4th Decision) is probably the one I would choose, either that or the (2nd Decision) which would allow you to be friends and grow as whatever you or she desires. The 4th one is the best though to build respect and trust in her eyes even more deeply and to find out why the hell she's all receptive even after you've hurt her like you did.
Note: Don't be stupid. Play this safe and really think about all that I've said about why you keep running back to her...easy access...something more. Just think about it deep down what you want for her, what you want for yourself and try not to let KARMA or your mistakes come back to haunt you. You've already fooled her once, should you try for a second time in the same exact situation? I would hope you wouldn't want history repeating itself so soon, you just need to get your ex out of your head and take a breather, instead of doing something irrational so soon.
My best wishes. PM me if you want to talk about this or you can let the forum know more details as they progress about your situation. I hope I've helped in this matter as best as I could with the information given.
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