Hiya PUA! Guess this doesn't exactly fit into the GF section of the board... Anyway, honna run through this in quick, chronological bullet points, just so it's an easier read for you guys. Really hoping to gain some insight on this!

Attraction Re-Builds
-Ex-GF and I broke up in March
-In early June, I initiate and start hooking up with her again
-Made it beyond clear that we would just be friends, not dating again, and she agreed
-At this point, she is still very sexually reserved, as she was during our relationship.
-In the past few weeks and specifically days, I have been doing a great job of building attraction with her, and getting her super horny. She literally can’t keep her hands off me now.
-After this sexual liberation, she mentions she wants to me to be her BF again. I refuse and tell her it’s because I’m hooking up with other girls.
-2 nights ago we almost had sex, but didn’t simply due to time and location restraints.

Party Plans
-Last night I go to a party she is hosting.
-I bring my closest friends from school (High School Senior here)
-Again, she’s super horny and ready to do just about anything. She expects me to sweep her off her feet at this party and give her the sexual experience of a lifetime.

Problems Arise
-However, I just wanted to enjoy the party and didn’t want to really do anything. She would cling on to me and start kissing me, but bitch, I’m mingling over here, give me some space.
-She starts hitting on all my friends, trying to make me jealous. In a phone call tonight, she told me she did this on purpose, because she felt like I was ignoring her and not giving her what she wanted.
-She hits on one of my very close friends specifically, and in a phone call tonight mentions she likes him and wants to hook up with him.
-She mentions in our phone call that she was also very angry at me for not doing anything with her last night, so she hooked up with another guy at another party she went to.

Let’s be real here - I don’t give a shit that she hooked up with some other guy at a party - we’re casual Friends with Benefits; you’re not supposed to catch feelings. However, she told me that specifically wanting me to “get mad” about it (her words). Moreover, it’s annoying as fuck that she’s going after my closest friend. Again, I don’t care if she hooks up with other people, but your best friend is WAY too close to home to be viable territory. Even more ridiculous is that in our conversation tonight, she hinted that she wanted to hook up with him.

The Takeaway
-I told her outright that I can’t get mad if she hooks up with another guy - it’s not my place because we’re casual. I also said it’s kinda weird that she would be into my best friend, but I can’t control who she likes - plus, again, we’re casual.
-I may have done TOO good a job getting her sexually liberated, and now she’s literally yearning for more all the time - even going as far as hooking up with a random guy (which she never would have done before).
-She’s subtly hinting (and she asked before) that I should become exclusive with her again.
-This dick is a gift - hoes should be expecting me to bless them if I don't feel like it. To be fair though, I should have just banged the bitch to avoid the above problems.

Help?
With these things in mind, I’m wondering what I should do.
-Should I give in to her, and act mad and pretend like her hooking up with another guy makes me feel some type of way?
-Should I re-wife her up?
-A bit more convoluted: Should I hook up with another random girl, then tell her about it, but cede that it didn’t even matter to me because the only girl who I want is her?
-Should I maintain my frame, and simply reiterate that I don’t care if she hooks up with others, even if she wants me to care about it?

Also, what should I do about her liking my best friend? My friend has told me there’s no way he would hook up with her (bros before hoes)
-Is it just a ploy to get me jealous and appear to care more?
-If it isn’t a ploy, what should I do?


Thanks in advance for your replies!

soft next her for 2 days. This means cut off all contact and communication with her for two entire days and nights. When you resume just say you were busy. If she gives you any drama about it, soft next her for another two days.

After that continue to hook up with her and when she brings up the bf thing again look at her and be like "you know, what we have is going good, dont you think? I dont think we really need to put a label on it. Im really enjoying our time together and I know in the past when we try to force things and label things, everything has gone bad. Things are going good and their moving along."

Then kiss her an go fuck her.

Then go fuck whoever else you want too because you avoided becoming her BF

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1. Figure out if you want her as a gf or not. You shouldn't be asking guys online if you should date her again. You either want to or you don't.

2. If you figure out you truly don't want to date her again, get over her. Drop the FWB because she (and you by the sound of it) can't handle it. Game other girls.

3. Tell your friend to have fun with her. She ain't yours and it's an easy lay for him. (If she's hot he'll probably sleep with her any way if she really comes on to him).

4. Yes it's a ploy to make you jealous. Bitches be crazy and all that.

You didn't give her what she wanted... so she got it somewhere else.

She was trying to hook up with you. You just didn't want to do it.

Am I wrong for that, though? Not wanting to hook up on one single night?

Granted, the night before was really nice and I guess there was an expectation that we would do more - but even still..?

She's trying to make you jealous and it's clearly working.
I'd be surprised if she actually hooked up with that guy, but it doesn't matter, regardless.

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