I am going to be meeting my girlfriend in a a few days, we haven't seen each other much recently due to distance, and the first time we see each other we are going to have lunch, and then she is insisting we go to a popular college dive bar because her friends will be there. It will be packed with people. Now I know she has some guy friends, and she wasn't specific about which of her friends would be there. She is a fairly social girl so I won't be surprised if she talks to some guys she knows or meets some new ones.

I would rather be proactive and prepared for the situation in which she is talking to other guys in front of me than be asking about it after it has happened.

My question is, how should I handle this possible situation? Is it best to just ignore it and be disinterested? At what point does a guy cross the line with physical contact? In other words, what are the "Do's" and the "Don'ts"? Any advice at all is useful, since I haven't been in this situation before.

Thanks in advance.

The fact you're posting about this before it happens means you're concerned about it (and probably more than you should be).

You talk to other girls, right? Socially, with no intention of sleeping with them?

If you appear to be bothered by it, or you act controlling it will only work against you.

Putting up an act of 'indifference' is your best course of action. Befriend the guys... they may be nice, and fun to be around. Don't be a party pooper just cause you've got this irrational concern on your mind.

Do you trust her? If the answer is yes, then stop worrying and have fun.

She's there with you.

Bars are bars.

There will be flirting, tons of it. Many of her guy-friends will try their luck. She's your girlfriend, and you know her better than anyone who is going to post on this forum. However, one thing is for sure, if she's willing to risk your relationship for another guy, then she's not worth it. Just be casual, chat with other people and don't stick TOO much to her. If you see guys flirting with her, it's normal, suck up the feelings of jealousy and man up. However, if she lets them touch her inappropriately in any way, then something is wrong.

Socializing and flirting are two different things all together.

"Don't" be the jealous needy boy, "Do" enjoy the opportunity to socialize and meet new people. Maintain your confidence level knowing she wouldn't flirt with other dudes when she has the glorious opportunity to be with YOU.

Of course if you already had the proper mind set you wouldn't be asking.

"Do" be prepared to dump her ass, if she is truly flirting with other dudes, and if she needs to flirt with someone else, you don’t want to be her boyfriend. She should already be aware, you "Don't" put up with bullshit like that.

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I'm gonna tell you right now even if you're bothered by it act TOTALLY 100% unaffected! I told a girl one time I wasn't the jealous type I don't care if she has guy friends because who am I to say who you can and can't be friends with? After that she tested me like fucking crazy I acted totally unphazed even though it was getting under my skin after that I acted a little more aloof and it drove her crazy!

That's just my experience take from it what you will, but whatever you do stay cool!

Honestly...

Get your shit together and know what is and what isn't flirting. If she's just being sociable and talking to guy friends but not flirting with them then act cool and leave it out. If she's genuinely flirting with them and it's obvious call her out on it. Take her to the side, don't be emotional and simply call her out with the mentality that you can dump her ass and find someone else.

First step to other guys fucking your girl is flirting with her, man. If she's openly flirting with other guys and you're in a distant relationship chances are she's going to fuck them... but I must stress that you absolutely must know the difference between flirting and just being social with people.

Ask any guy here. Ask any PUA here if they've ever fuck a girl who had a boyfriend. We'll all have many stories to tell you. I myself have fucked married women, engaged women and girlfriends. I've openly tried NOT to get with some of these girls but once they flirt they're yours easily.