I have an exciting challenge. I want to lay a younger friend (she's 24, I'm 31).

She was actually an intern in my office while she was in college. She graduated recently and returned home and got a job. At work she was quiet and got her work done. In fact, she seemed intimidated by me once when I mildly pointed out a mistake.

By coincidence, I'm going to her town on a business trip. I messaged her on Facebook and she volunteered to show me around. We went back and forth with several messages, and she seems very eager to see me. She knows I'm married with a young child.

She's quite sexy. Cute face, thin body, huge boobs, nice legs.

Here's what I want to know:

1) Based on what I said, does it sound like she might be interested in more than just showing me around?

Mainly,

2) How would you go about "closing the deal"?

Any tips are appreciated, and I'll post an update.

My trip is in mid-October, so I have almost two months to strategize.

Thanks in advance!

I feel unethical advising someone with a child and a marriage how to cheat... I don't know your situation, so I'll try anyway...

But Theres a pretty good method, that's older then the hills... :

1) Go for a drink and both get pretty tanked... (Cocktails are an obvious choice... pretty, quite strong)

2) End up somewhere, where sex is likely to happen... (like somewhere with a bed)

3) Get Drunk-Cuddly with her, and feel (might not show up) for the moment to start escalating...

Based on what you've provided, it's impossible to say. She agreed to show you around and seems to look forward to seeing you. Why? Maybe sex. Maybe she's hoping for a job offer and ability to move back. Maybe she's just dreadfully bored and this is more interesting than five extra hours of tv.

Basically, there is little to strategize. She's either into you, at which point, over thinking is your biggest enemy. Or else she's not DTF, and there is little to nothing you'll do to change that.

Don't think about it too much. When you see her, it will be plain. Go for it if she seems interested in person.

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Thank you Caitsith and Versalis!

@ Catisith, I also figure going for drinks is a good idea. It's getting her to a "place where sex is likely to happen" that'll be 80% of the challenge. (PS- My wife knows or suspects I fool around, she turns a blind eye as long as I'm discreet and come home to her.)

@ Versalis, over-thinking is definitely my weakness. I'll watch her reactions early in the night and determine whether she's down for some NSA or she genuinely just wants to show around a friend.

You're married and have a kid? I'm not going to judge your moral character, but she might be hesitant if you begin to escalate or show interest. She seems very eager to see you so just game her normally by do occasional breaks in rapport when appropriate and have her qualify. She's already investing by showing you around town.

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Thanks, WillEdward! Your advice was very helpful.

I actually don't know all the PUA jargon yet, so you sent me running toward Google (thanks, for that, btw). "Breaking rapport" seems like a good idea, as I now realize I've been chasing in the past and likely enabling bad behavior and shooting myself in the foot. Now that I know what "qualifying" is, I'll keep on the lookout and encourage it. She definitely seems "invested," so I think I'm on the right track. I think she might have been qualifying already. In one of her messages, she said she's kept the souvenir I got her on a previous business trip, bringing it back home from college (I brought back souvenir magnets for everyone in the office).

My game plan:

Start with harmless "kino"--giving her a hug as soon as I see her with a throw-away compliment, "you look great!" (I've already established this a bit in the office, giving her high-fives when she helped out on something.)

"Deep-diving" over dinner, with kino escalation and breaking rapport when appropriate. (She'll likely choose the restaurant since it's her hometown. I doubt she'll take me to some dive, it'll be interesting to see how nice a place she chooses.)

Split the check, unless the waiter hands me the check directly, in which case I'll pay and tell her she has to treat me the next night (I'll be there three nights, but the third night will be a business dinner).

Invite her back to my room for a "drink." If she comes up, I'll assume she wants to have sex and I'll kiss her within the first few minutes. (Any ideas on how I should brush off a rejection to come up for a drink, if applicable, so I won't put her off for meeting again?)

Any input or pointers?

The main thing I would fix is kissing her before you get her back to your place. You need to figure out if she's into you earlier rather than later.

If you invite her for drinks and haven't yet made your intentions clear, she'll be much less likely to agree if she's interested. Girls usually like to have a little time to %100 feel like she's on a date and things are building with you. There are exceptions, but it's not common for an acquaintance to want to hang out platonically and then suddenly have a dick appear in her hand.

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Thanks again, Versalis! I'll try to kino escalate to a kiss before we get back to the hotel or wherever we go after dinner.

Is this a viable tactic? Unless things are going super well, you offer advice to her about not having a family too soon and maybe how after your kid was born, your wife isn't interested in sex any more? You could get into about how hot things used to be, going down on her, etc, but those days are over.

Has that worked for anyone before?

Not judging you here... Have you ever cheated on your wife before? If not, what is making you consider it. If the sex sucks now or something, maybe your time would be better spent asking for advice on how to fix that. Just a thought

^ He said he already does, his wife knows(sort of) but doesn't care as long as he keeps it separate from her and the kid.
Don't do this. This is what most guys do when unsuccessfully attempting to fuck other women.
Girls do not like to have conversations about this. Let your actions do the talking.

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Thank you Vape1NYC and Versalis for your input! I was wondering about that myself. I don't think I should bring up my wife unsolicited. But let's say things are starting to get hot, and she is a little hesitant because I have a wife, what should I say?

@ neo87, yes I have cheated on my wife a few times. She isn't the jealous type. I'm often on the road for weeks at a time for work, and that's when it happens. I don't cheat on her when I'm home. She said as long as I'm discreet, use a condom and only sleep with women who are "as hot or hotter" than her, it's OK. (I guess it would be a blow to her ego if I slept with someone who was butt ugly. She once told me which of my friends she'd be OK with me sleeping with and which ones she would never forgive me for.) I get the feeling as long as she doesn't think the relationship is threatened, she doesn't mind. It's about as serious as masturbation to her.

Does you wife have a sister? I like those groundrules.

Any idea what I should do if she is DTF, but is hesitant because I'm marrie?

I've given a girl my explanation above about my wife being cool as long as I'm discrete/careful/selective/NSA only, but that girl clearly didn't buy it (even though I wasn't making it up). I usually don't mention my wife, but if it came up...?

To be clear, girls don't really care about your wife. She doesn't know your wife. There are thousands of little starving African children she also doesn't give a shit about because she doesn't know them. Your wife is like that to her.

When she asks about your wife, she's really asking about you. Do you want her for her, or are you looking to escape from your wife? She wants to have an affair with a complete man who finds her highly desirable. And she doesn't want this getting back to other people, so it needs to be discreet.

I can't tell you what to say, as I'm single, but I see a lot of consistency in what I've heard from attractive younger women having affairs with married men. Some girls won't sleep with a married man. There isn't a thing you can say to convince them. The ones who are willing? It's like any other girl, she's driven mostly by feeling, and very little by logic. Don't try to engage this logically. Focus on feelings.

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