I went on vacation a few years back , asking closed with her before I left but she has a boyfriend at the time and I didn't want to be apart of that. We kept in touch , flirted a lot threw text, and SPAM a few times. A few month of this she told me she broke up with her boyfriend and wanted to see if there was a possibility we could be together . I visited her 3 months after we met and we fucked the same night I got there. the next night we went on a date and she told me that she just wanted to be friends confused on the whole situation I said ok and I fucked her again that night. The third night she took me out to eat and I ended up paying for the mail and we went by a lake I saw on the way to the restaurant and we talked a little bit. After a while she tells me that If I wanted to kiss her it's ok cuz I payed for the meal... Ok so I kissed and made out with her. After that she was taking me to my hotel and her ex calls her a lil annoyed I wait till the convo is over and proceed to ask her about the deal with him and her, she said she was trying to be his friend because his grandmother was sick or something . Anyway she was annoyed by the call and we talked some more and he called again. BUT I had the phone in my hands and I picked up the phone , I told him that I was with her and he flipped out asking who I was . I told him my name and he told me he was going to fuck me up. I laughed and she ripped the phone away from after hitting me a few times while it spoke to him. At that moment I knew, she lied to me, that she really wasn't broken up with him. I felt used in a sense, and played with. maybe she knew that we couldn't work, I was so far away and unless I picked up my bags and moved closer to her that it wouldn't work.

I could continue this story for another 50 lines but I'll bring the story to a conclusion. We talked back and forth after the incident , she did indeed break things with her BF after the incident , she see my blames me for it but she also understands why I did it. a year passes and I start talking about moving down there. She helped me find a place to stay and I almost went. I got convinced by my parents that I was making a bad move and I should save up some more money before attempting to resettle. Foolishly I listened , and I told her that I'm going to take a lil longer to get down there, obviously she got upset and we got into a fight. A few weeks later she calls me and starts telling me she hooked up with her ex... I'm heating at this point and told her to stop calling me and stop texting, that I was done. 5 months pass by and I get a New Years resolution from her saying she's changed , she's lost weight and is in a much better situation in her life. Blah blah , u don't know how many times I've heard this. I ignored it.

Another 3 or 4 months go by and she texted me again saying "hi" I text her back (stupid me) and told her why I texted her back (I literally had a dream about living near her and about her etc the night before) I'm a spiritual person so I figured it was a sign. We started talking again, flirting again she tells me all this stuff that's happened with her over the year and I share myself back. I asked her what she wanted from me and she said she wanted to be friends. I told her that we should stop flirting with ea other then. We stopped for a lil bit but we ended up doing it again.. I asked her if she was willing to try out a relationship again . She said no. Ok.. We continue to talk over the weeks and month and it felt like a huge game with her . I told her I plan to move to where she lives but I don't know when. I really don't want to be with this girl after all the bullshit I went threw with her. I told my friend about it and he told me to just ignore her. "If you don't like her anymore just ignore it, she's playing games and harassing you so what are you doing" so I did, I ignored her she texted a few times asking what's up, she started to get annoyed that I was ignoring her and wrote the most awful text I ever read, traumatizing shit . It didn't faze me though I didn't text her. It's been about a month or two know since I stopped talking to her she hasn't texted me since then.


OK , so that's that. Now let me tell you my situation. I have on my hands SPAM. I recently came into some money and I was thinking of moving to the city where she lives , and starting a new life. I don't plan on contacting her, but what if I did? She would prob find out eventually but who knows, its a big city. She's not the only person I know who lives there but I've cut all ties with those people a long time ago. But it is a possibility that one of them will see me and it goes around to her.
I really like that city and she wasn't the only reason why I wanted to go. It's a fun place. And I think I would enjoy my life there.

Should I try and contact her , just to have a friend over there ? Probably more then friends? It's more then possible that's for sure. Or should I leave it alone. I would never attempt to be in a relationship with this person.
What do u guys think? Should I go and live in another city? Would like some advice on this . Thanks

Well... If you're going to move, do it for yourself. Don't think about her or anyone else down there. Think about how it would effect your life. As far as the situation with her goes... I've been in this predicament quite a few times, and more recently, it's like Deja Vu all over.

In my experience with this situation, it's probably best that you just let her go. She's going to keep playing head games and say "let's be friends" and turn around telling you she really wants to see "what happens" with you two. It's a constant back and forth, and unless you can treat her like she's just another woman, opposed to how you've treated her thus far... It's only going to effect you negatively.

Repeatedly I've been in this situation time and time again. I always tell myself the same thing too: "Man, I forgot how much I dug this chick beforehand... I can see where it's going to end up already, but I'll try anyways."

Each time, with that particular girl, it has failed for one reason or another. When I cut ties with her; I'm fine. When I start talking to her again; I'm not ok. Simply because I haven't been able to put her in that gray area where all the other women I've been with are. It's bad for your health to keep putting yourself through a situation that obviously bothers you... Even if you say you wouldn't try a relationship with her anymore. She knows how to get under your skin and the right buttons to push; she'll have you heated in no time. All over some guy again.

Best to cut loose buddy.

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While reading your reply I was going over with my self all the excuses to contact her. Things like "I know I can laugh that shit off, she's won't get under my ski , and I already see her as another girl"

But I will take your advice and it seems like you have gone threw it plenty of times yourself.

So cut loose it is . Thank you

I'll be updating this thread quite a bit about my progress with actually moving there.
I've been thinking about other locations around the u.s but this place is familiar to me and I have a good feeling about it. So I think I will continue to do my thinking around that.

Thanks again for your reply

I actually plan on literally starting a new life over there. So I would cut basically all contact with the people I know now and just 'disappear' so to speak. For my own reasons of course. Leaving my phone behind is probably the biggest thing on my mind right now.

I hung out with two of my closest friends today. I told them all about the move I have been planning To make. I didn't really know how they would react, but I kinda of got the feeling they didn't want me to go. they didn't tell me this specifically but that's the idea I got from the conversation we had.

It's going to be hard to leave such good friends behind , but I know this is the best decision for me. I need to stay focused on the reasonings behind my thinking, otherwise everything will just crumble down and I'll continue to be stuck in the same situation I'm currently in.

Just a little update on my current progress . I'll be figuring out my finacial situation tomorrow. Hopfully everything works out and I'll be one step closer to making this happen.

I spoke with my dad briefly about it, and he didn't really have much to say, he has his own problems to deal with and I'm pretty sure he trusts my decisions. His opinion might change when I get closer to actually making things happen. We will see

From the title I thought this was about a journey to middle earth and somehow involved a lost ring

Lmfao

Sorry bro that's just my personality . Haha fuck that got me good