Hey guys I was talking to my mom about life and all of a sudden she brought up women and how I am doing in that aspect of my life. I am okay but not where I want to be. She goes on to say that it is normal and right for men to have an abundance of women in their lives until he is ready to get married like my dad. So apparently, according to my mom, before my parents met, my father would have lots of dates and had plenty of women in his life and he was really good at figuring them out too. I am 21, and looked within myself at that moment and was like "if this is so, then what is going on with me?" I have never successfully attracted and seduced the girl or woman I WANT. The ones that come to me are the desperate ones and the hot ones that 'seem' to genuinely like me are only teases. I am still a virgin and for some reason thinking about it kills me inside and so I go through phases where I feel good and then don't feel good about myself

In short my suggestions are:
- Get a wing man and be direct with him (or her) and say "look, I need your help. How do I get these women that I want!?"
- If it's a guy who's very successful, ask them for their top 3 tips that they use every time they talk to a woman.
- If it's a girl - ask what women will usually go for when a guy is approaching them and if they could even help you in-field.
- Read up on the forums. There's a LOT of useful information on here.
- YouTube some infield videos. There are some out there, even when watching it you'll say "what the fuck?" but give their techniques a shot and you'll say the same thing when it works for you.

Here's my story so that hopefully you'll see you aren't alone:
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It's not to say that there's something wrong with you. I'm guessing it was a moral decision to not give up your virginity just yet. Myself, and I wouldn't consider it regretfully, I waited it out until I was 20. I'm currently 25 and let me tell you - once I broke away from this awkward stage of being a virgin at my age, I realized that it allowed me to be more "cool, calm and collective" with the women I did WANT to talk to. Unfortunately for me, I lost my virginity to someone out of sheer desperation to just break away from something that is usually nerve racking.

Picked up a girl at a convenient store I used to work at. Decided... I'll give it a shot. I'm in no way attracted to her nor would I ever be. I just focused on what I DID like about her... Giant boobs. Yep, sold! Right after I sealed the deal with her, I questioned myself. "Why did I settle for that?" and the answer was simple... I was nervous enough as it was (just being honest) and I know that, if I tried having sex with a smoking hot experienced girl, I would have scared her away QUICKLY how I handled it.

My second girl, oh I remember her well. Met her through a friend and things were solid from start to finish with her. It helped that she started the initial interaction and found me to be quite attractive (blush.) It was a sealed deal without any effort; which was perfect for me. I was so inexperienced that it felt good to let my looks win me one over with someone I considered a "HB8" at the time. Looking back on it and how I've changed in time, she's really only a 7.

Now my confidence was way up but my game was not. One was a duff and the other was a giveaway... What have I done with myself in order to meet women and be the stud that I truly felt like at this point? Nothing. Thank GOD for alcohol at this point in my life. That was the only thing that made me social with anyone. From there, I had a few good wingmen that really set me up with a few of my lays and forced me to break out of my shell bit by bit. In your position - I'd recommend you find yourself a wingman that'll help teach you and force you out of your initial comfort zone, building you a new comfort zone. It sucks at first because of all the doubt, being turned down, etc. The same anxiety issues that almost every man faces at some point. Eventually, though, you'll grow accustom to all of this and it becomes just a natural part of your day-to-day life.

My next step was taking it to the internet. Again - I wasn't experienced in socializing with the real world without alcohol and I figured... It's the internet; what could go wrong? Without hesitation I signed up for several online profiles and started messaging and adding as MANY WOMEN AS POSSIBLE. Looking back at it and after reading tons of great tips off of this forum and several other websites in my research; I went about it the wrong way - only successfully though. From one site alone I have met and banged over 10 women. Not only did this help my online game - but I took some of what I used and said in messages - to the streets with me.

Within 5 years - I've made up for all of the women I may have missed because I wasn't as good with the ladies as, say your dad back in his day. However, I still feel like there's something missing. I know what it is, and although I offer my advice as much as possible on the forums here, I'm still working on building my perfect persona for my real life interactions. I don't go out nearly as much as I should and game and that's my problem. That means I'm not practicing as much as I could and should! But I'm not awful either. I'd say that, out of 10 interactions, I'll pull 4 numbers and get 1-2 replies from there. Definitely not as high up as it should be and it certainly isn't where I want to be, but my techniques slack sometimes. Usually when I'm just not feelin it, I have a hard time disguising it and it works against me.

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