Hey guys here's what's up really no need for advice, but I've been friends with this girl for years send eachother Christmas cards we went to the movies shit like that she had a bf, but I wasn't gonna step on his toes when they broke up I'd talk to her about it she wasn't a romantic interest so I didn't mind.

Anyway she told me to add her on SPAM a long time ago I didn't have it at the time so I texted her hey miss dork. What's your SPAM name? I finally got with the times and signed up. No reply didn't think anything of it 2 weeks later I saw her on fb chat so I msg'd her hey goof I haven't seen you in ages how's life treating you? She got that msg and rather promptly blocked me. I was a little taken aback by that, but that's life friends don't stay around forever. I just thought it was kinda weird we've been friends for nearly 4 years at one time we'd talk nearly every day. When she broke up with her bf I said to her hey I'm not busy let's go out and get some nachos! She replied with she's has to study for an exam and isn't ready to date again I was like no worries I didn't mean it like that just a friendly invite she's like I'd love to, but I can't tonight maybe on the weekend. Anyway we never ended up going we didn't talk as much after that. But still kept in touch.

At the end of the day there's nothing I can do, but move on it doesn't make me feel overly great, but that's life friends come and go. As always any input is appreciated thanks!

It sounds like your getting past this, but were at least partially fixated on her, nothing will fuck up your game quicker then getting fixated on one girl.

In the past she kept you on a leash as an orbiter, free nachos, and a emotional tampon.

Somewhere along the trail you started to give off a needy clingy vibe, to girls clingy guys are like wedgies, they just can't pull them out of their ass fast enough and they won’t care who’s looking, no heart, no fuss, just gone.

If you’re having trouble getting over her, then listen to this advice and listen good Bro,

You will see this over and over on this forum, and there is a reason;

Go out and fuck 10 new girls. (GFTOW) Yes, it may take you a while, or maybe you can do this in only 2 or 3 months, but regardless, the process of meeting new girls and banging them will help you realize she wasn't worth a shit in the 1st place.

Looks like your on the right path, that's why you posted it.

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Thanks bro! I hear ya, but its weird she me more shit than I bought her as far as bitch sessions if you will I talked about my shit to her they were about 50\50. I only ever saw her as a friend so I don't think I was clingy, but who knows what she saw.

Here's our last convo not that it matters or is gonna do any good, but just for an idea.

Me: yo yo yo I just got a crazy idea! Let's go zip lining over the canyon!

Her: OMG you're crazy that sounds awesome how about tomorrow I can't today.

Me: sounds good!

She chickened out, but we still hung out. At the end of the day this shit doesn't matter anymore it sucks, but too many women out there to stress over one.

Probably felt awkward in realizing your intentions. I am assuming you did have interest in her. Anyway she had you pegged in a certain role in her life and when you stepped beyond she'd felt uncomfortable and blamed those feelings of unease on you (hence blocking you).

Either way, doesn't really matter. As you said, lots more out there.

Dude, I have been there.

I wasn't even that into the girl. Fooled around with her a couple times but never slept together... then out of the blue she unfriends me and blocks me. No reason why, no explanation.... and I didn't do anything wrong either. I barely ever texted her... never blabbed around town that we were fooling around or anything.

Not sure where your mind is at - but in my case I didn't care as much that she broke contact or that she blocked me... it was more "WTF? I don't even know what the hell I did, or what's wrong"...

Couldn't use it as a learning tool, and had a tougher time getting past it than I should have because I just couldn't understand it.

I still sort of wonder... but I don't give a shit.

There's no real advice here - just a similar situation, and wanted to tell you I know it's shitty... but you appear to be dealing with it all right. All will be good.

N2: I only ever saw her as a friend so as far as my intentions I never gave it much thought all I thought was I don't see her as a gf, but I'm not opposed to dating her. Those were my thoughts, but who knows she obviously thought something different. The shitty part is not knowing I considered her a really close friend for the 4 years we knew eachother so I would have thought if something was making her uncomfortable she would have said something, but I guess not and there's not a lot I can do about that.

Charles: ya bro I hear ya! There's not even a lesson to be learned here because I have no idea where shit went south, but one upside to this is even though it stings a bit I'm over it even more than I was when I typed up the original post. So what I'm taking from this is learning to say fuck it and move on quicker than I have in other break up situations.

I'm just trying not to think about it now, but with that being said it still doesn't make me feel great that we were close friends for 4 yrs and then bam done for apparently no reason, but that's life.

Update for anyone that's interested: I deleted her # I'm out on a road trip with some friends I get a text from a number I don't know it was her here's how it went. Keep in mind I double and triple checked my fb because deleted profiles still show up in your friends list. And I looked her up from a bfriends fb just to make sure she did delete me and she did.

Her: heyyy I keep forgetting to get back to you!

Me: who's this?

Her: so and so

Me: me I'm out on a jet skiing trip right now and can't talk.

Her:

Her: Have Fun!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I haven't talked to her since I don't know what her deal is I don't know if she feels bad for deleting me maybe she's seeing how far she can push me who knows, but I figure why put myself in a situation with a girl that's playing games and risk getting hung up? 10% wonders why 90% doesngive a shit.

Felt lonely, wanted some validation/somebody to pump her tires.

Move on.

I've been through this 2 times.

4 Years is a long time and you are clearly friends. The girl is going through a break-up and it's normal, but I can see that she took this shit too far. She probably doesn't have A LOT of friends to hang out with and she feels the most comfortable going out with you. In my opinion, no need to block/remove her from any social networking device. I'd rather just give her space. If she re-initiates, I'd talk to her and call her on her behavior and demand an explanation. If your instinct tells you it's true, she might be passing through bad times. We all pass through bad times in our lives. If she bitches out and ignores it, just walk away with no intentions of coming back.

The only solution you can do to forget girls is to get to know more of them. So my input is to go out and get more girls. But that's just my opinion.

She didn't really sound respectful to your invitations to speak/hangout. No biggie, really. But my question is how do you feel about that? Personally I'd see this person as not really adding to my life in anyway and would just move on - really, for no other reason than in keeping true to my own boundaries and maintaining my self-respect.

We had fun when we did hang out and I kinda miss that, but she made it clear by deleting me that that's over with. Whatever her reason was for texting me I don't know, but there is rarely anything worth going backward for so I'm keeping my self respect intact hanging out with the women I have on the go now and continuing to meet new ones.