Hi folks, new guy here. Somewhat of a natural, with fair knowledge of things PUA.
I'm a beast face-to-face but suck at casual LDRs, and one of them just got terminated prematurely on me.
Basically I met this French HB9 when I was studying in an English university, we spent like 4 months as an unofficial couple before we had to return back to our home countries. Poor girl cried her eyes out at the airport.
We decided to keep in touch to maintain a form of long distance friends with benefits thing, and we decided that for our first get-together I would visit her in France (always wanted to see what the fuss is all about with Paris!)
I ended up having to cancel my plane ticket 3 days ago, reasons:
- First, as the date drew closer, she was starting to get distant with a LOT of mood swings.
- Then we got into a little trip related argument. I kept my cool, didn't do anything AFC....until I agreed to her "demands" and said that "I hope it'll be worth it." That really pissed her off but damn I have my limits as well. Curse her mood swings.
- Things cooled off again, made peace, but she claimed that this argument, combined with undisclosed "weird things going on" had "put her off" me. When she said that she
wasn't attracted to me anymore and was being "forced out of guilt" to meet me, I called the trip off.
I don't think things ended badly, or if things ended at all. All she said was thanks and that she hopes things won't get weird. I shrugged everything off in a friendly manner as if it wasn't a big deal.
My question is: was this a LJBF thing? If so how can rekindle her attraction to me before our inevitable (unrelated) meet up back in England next December? I want her purely for the FWB thing we had going on. It was fun
Additional information that might factor in in all of this:
- I haven't talked to her since then (3 days ago).
- She's best friends with her recently ex boyfriend back in France. Always claimed that she still loves him.
- I think she might have had her first lesbian experience a while ago. Don't know if it's relevant. Could possibly be "the weird things going on".
- We were both seeing other people in the mean time.
Cheers!
CHAT