My girl always jokes about how she finds fat spanish dudes repulsive

one day she sees one from afar and is laughing with me a bit

but she talked to him a bit and said "i was admiring you from afar" right in front of me

she knows I know that she finds them gross

but for her to say that in front of me, when the guy had no idea of this non-preference of hers


should I call out this sort of thing?

i just joked "i will tell that fat spanish girl over there I was admiring her from afar lol, so many of these people here tonight

why do you care so much? Do you want her to tell that person she finds them "Fat and repulsive"? She's just being nice and making light of the situation. Your overthinking it, just let it go. Assuming she is your GF she could be testing you just to see how you would react. Obviously if this becomes a habit and it makes you feel uncomfortable in the relationship then let her know but take a deep breath and a few steps back.

Yeah, why do you give a shit? Don't be so insecure, bro.

Dude, c'mon. Get your shit together. If that's all it takes to shake your entire confidence level, you're gonna have a bad time.

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Well, I didn't say "why did you say that to him" or "don't talk to that guy", but I did point out a Spanish girl right after and said "I am going to call that Spanish girl over here and tell her I admire her" and my girl said "oh comon, fine go do it I don't care" then I made a joke about how many of them there were here and we joked back and forth , and didn't act overly jealous

I also have never acted jealous before this with her in two years

Holy shit ---

What's she going to say to the guy (if she said anything at all)?

"Hey, you're repulsive and I hate you?"

Of course not.

There is zero wrong with what she said. You're overreacting.

Say something to her and she's going to think you're a controlling prick.

It's not really about what you said to her. The fact that you posted about it here speaks for itself.

Don't take my reply as an attack, we've all been there at one point in life and we all have had our excuses. Learn from your mistakes and do your best not to repeat them. This was one of those mistakes.

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well we went home and banged after this

Great .

Your relationship won't go to shit for one moment of insecurity. Only when it becomes a recurrence.

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I just worry about this stuff. I have:

-never shown jealousy before
-never put myself down and be unsure of myself
-always been decisive and led her
-been confident in myself and she has even said this and said I'm very decisive

except this time and we had a penis size conversation once where I asked a bit about her history, but this was like 4 months ago

other than that over the course of 2 years it has been consistently different

do you think I'm ok

Hey mate by reading this I can tell you you are your own hardest critic. I'm the exact same way it was a simple mistake don't let it happen again and she'll forget about it. You'll be fine I've had dates where I've made out with the girl multiple times and the thought of a possible mistake I made and in my head the relationship is over meanwhile she can't wait to see me again.

By the sound of this post I think that describes you as well just do your best not to think too much and learn from that mistake and don't make it again.

Its not always about what you show, its about what you "feel". Just because you don't think you're physically showing it, doesn't mean they can't pick it up. Women have something that men don't understand called "intuition". It lets them know the things that you think you're hiding because you're staying quiet.

I honestly thought this post was a joke until I read through further commentary.

Give it a break man.

This isn't some competitive " You do this I do that" game with your girlfriend. You guys are on the same team.. Be the leader on the team because she'll always be looking for one - even if it means being with a fat spanish guy.

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