So on some nights when I go out with my friends I've had girls approach me and initiate conversation. Now, I'm all for it so I turn on the charm, listen to her, be fun and interesting, etc. and before I know it we're out on our own fooling around, kissing, maybe get a little finger action in a more private section of the club, whatever, and then go back to her/my place to seal the deal.

Now that's all great, but the problem is that SHE is the one initiating attraction, not me. So any interest in further opportunities I may have with this girl are lost due to the fact that she was more proactive than I was. Physically she may be more or less good looking, but the aftermath of our night leads to obnoxious texting about when our next outing will be, to the point that it becomes a job. Being the superficial male that I am, that night was more or less along the lines of...'oh sweet I get a free pass without really having to do anything', and we hook up.

Now without sounding like some scum of the earth douche bag any further, these kind of aggressive girls are in a way emasculating me (extinguishing my interest). So what do I do? Consider your own reputation and how you want girls to see you... Do I be upfront with her? tell her that it was only a one night thing? Keep her around as a booty call?

My outlook on this is that we had a pretty fun night, and maybe I would like to see her again, but not if she's the one with the upper hand.

Do not lie and be honest with her. You need to live with yourself. If you want her around to 'have fun and if something happens, it happens. But at this time I am not looking for a relationship' then you are being honest and good can come of it.

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