| I would rate this gal an HB8, sort of a minor celebrity (blogger and cosplayer), gets hit on tons but has massive insecurities. I knew something was off, and I wasn't shocked when I found out why.
So I met this girl at a party, flirted with her on FB for about 2 weeks, got her # and said I'd contact her if I was in her area so we can hang out. After 2 weeks tried to meet but did not fall through. Tried texting her a couple of times but no response.
We meet again at a party a few weeks later, acted normal DHV myself around people. She would always try to avoid eye contact so I gave her minimal attention eventually bumping into her with some hello's and kino. She was receptive to my kino. Then, she apologized for not responding to my messages which was a heavy IOI for me. By the end of the party she asked where I was going as if she wanted to ride with me, but I played cool and said I had to catch up with my buddies and invited her to tag along. She said she had stuff to do and we parted ways.
The next day gave her a call, flirted heavily for close to an hour with similar conversation that we had in FB, set a couple of plans, ended up making plans to go out in one week.
The day before we were supposed to go out we "meet" again at a party. Before going there I sent a feeler, called her asking if she was going, saying I was busy and could not make it. She sounded disappointed, asking if I really wasn't coming and then telling me she was already on her way and that I should go there too. So I go in really late and was the last person in like a VIP.
Again she tries to avoid eye contact. I thought WTF. So DHV again with other groups. All the while she was with a gay friend chatting like they had their own world. Eventually after I have spent enough time with others I slowly engage the friend and make my way to her, ended up almost freeing the gay friend out because we were having so much fun together.
She brings me to another party where I gave her massive kino and she appeared comfortable. Ended up driving her home where I meet her parents and cousins and we spend time just talking. At this point I was giving her really heavy kino, making plans, doing push-pull, but no k-close. She tells me she was supposed to get a puppy the next day and celebrate father's day with her dad so we might have to cancel our plans. I said no problem we should just get the puppy together.
At this point I already sensed something was amiss with the extreme change of hair color, tattoo, and new puppy.
Next day comes and we go buy the pup with her dad. We spend the day taking photos, playing with the new puppy. They invite me to supper and I engaged and bonded with her parents. More talk, bonding with her and her family, hours fade and she invites me to go out to buy some ice cream. During this time she tells me a bit about her ex who was an LDR. One the way home I grab her hand while she was talking. She immediately shut up. I asked her why. She said it felt weird saying she was not used to it due to LDR.
When we got home I gave massive kino eventually escalating to a kiss, at which point she stopped me. Barely in time too because her mom stepped out. I acted like it was nothing and after a few minutes moved to leave.
In my head I was thinking of my strategy - something was off, and I needed to yank it out.
Before entering the car I pull her to the side and tell her I wanted to get to know her better. She asks me if I wanted my answer. I said no, it doesn't matter. Well she tells me anyway that she wasn't over her ex, and that friendship was all she could offer. I say that's fine, but she shouldn't expect me to still be around when she's ready.
She stood watching as I went in and started rolling down the street. I open my window and ask why and what she's doing. She said something like she was making sure I was okay or something (wasn't really listening).
I tell her to get into the car.
I ask her what happened, what her ex had done to her. She tells me she cheated on a 6-year relationship to be with her last, who left her after one year to be with her friend. With the last guy, although it was a LDR, and she was the one who went to the guy every 3 months or so.
She cried and I tell her if she wanted to know about me. I tell her I did something similar too, but that I do not regret any of it. She tells me she has to go or her mom would kill her and that was that.
Right now I'm NC. It has been a few days after that episode and I realize that I am actually into her, much more than I initially thought I was. Perhaps because I invested quite a bit?
Been setting up some dates here and there but failing with my half-hearted attempts. Not that I care anyways, was only doing them to move away from this one. Can't believe I'm this into someone I only went out with twice.
TL;DR: Tried to k-close but was stopped, found out she's not over her ex. What next?
Apologies for the long story.
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