I need advice on this cute HB9...

Met this girl a month ago on a night out with mutual friends. Sticky situation that just ended up going against me entirely. I got her and some friends into VIP talked to the two people near her that I knew from my other mates that were there. She started talking to one of her girl friends and kept eyeing me up every two minutes checking me out. I started talking to the boyfriend of her friend having a laugh and asked him to introduce me to her and his girlfriend, talked to her but turned out her English wasn't great so I smile at her and start talking to the guy for a bit when i'm introduced to another Brazilian guy(Chick was from Brazil too). He sits beside me, starts chatting away and catches her checking me out then comments loudly "See her? She likes you. Talk to her, i'll interpret for you." What can I do? He tells me to tell her she's beautiful "Vocé e linda", I cooly laugh and say it to her. She blushes, smiles, blah blah. Then the guy says he'll interpret and tells me to say something. I start talking in English and he translates in portugeuse. Everyone laughs, the guy obviously wasn't translating what I was saying.

Anyway, it kind of died down after that and I didn't talk to her after that. Then another Brazilian girl I was hooking up with comes up the stairs to VIP and I talk to her for a few minutes. She's there, coming up and down every now and then and the girl senses this. She was checking me out all night despite this but I didn't make a move. Later on in the night I see a guy hanging out of the cute HB9 and even though he's hanging out of her hugging her and shit she's still checking me out. It was really obvious... Infact she would push him away when I was around.

Anyway, haven't seen her since that night and I feel like a tool for giving her up to some fat needy loser(Maybe he was her boyfriend? Fuck if I know... he just kind of appeared out of nowhere and didn't talk to anyone). Tomorrow night will be the first time I see her since then in another club with mutual friends around.

I want to f-close this chick if not tomorrow night then as a work in progress and need advice on how to salvage the situation with her.

Totally lost as to where I stand and if the window of opportunity is still open. I definitely DHVed and her friends really liked me so what move am I to make?

What situation is there to salvage? She's either going to be into you or not. You'll know shortly after seeing her again. I'm not seeing any fundamental mistake you made, like getting possessive or failing to escalate, etc. It would appear there is nothing for you to correct, aside from following through if she's interested.

You attracted her once, you can probably do it again.

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Yeah, she was still into me. Bit of kino, looking at me, grabbing me for photos and trying to get up close to me. She left early though and I didn't talk to her much.

I feel like i'm getting in the way of myself with this one. Kind of caught between a rock and a hard place. I'm getting along pretty well with her best friend but he's more her brother than a friend so i'm somewhat reluctant to make a move on her. I feel like i'm pussying out on this one!

You are. Dude! Just run your normal game as you would do with any other girl! It looks to me that you are putting her on a pedestal...

I think you're right. I didn't see it as that before but having written out a reply about how I felt odd about hitting on her when i'm friends with her friend who sees her as a little sister I kind of realised that i'm just making excuses and not realising the simple fact that i've placed her up there.

Fuck it, next time I see her i'm just going to be direct.

Story sounds fine to me. You should escalate when you meet her again.

Would like to hear how it goes.

Had a surprise meeting with her at a party over the weekend. My friend invited her to it and tried his luck with her which didn't end well for him as she basically told him she wasn't interested.

I didn't talk to her much save for a kiss on the cheek hello and one when saying goodbye. Other than that just one or two photos with her and the group(Nothing worth commenting on really). I didn't have a chance to talk or make a move as my friend was covering that angle all night, hovering around her, hitting on her and going so far as to ask for a kiss.

I'm beginning to doubt if she was into me. The other night she wasn't checking me out or seeking my attention and she seemed hooked on having fun with my friend, hugging him and being close to him in general. I carried on at the party after she left but sent her a message in the morning basically saying I didn't expect to see her at the party and that it was a surprise. No reply.

Dude, why didn't you go rescue her from your friend?

Well, without you having tried on her it's hard to say. If she was even a bit engaged in the conversation with you friend it's likely that she didn't have the time to look for you.
Plus, she gave you clear signals for two times and you didn't approach her. She might have been into you and she might start loosing interest in you. Grab your balls and go and talk to her next time!

Yeah, I agree. Don't worry about coming off as AFC or whatever. Next time you see her, just go to her.

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Positioning was all wrong to go save her. She was sitting in a corner beside my friend and locked in by her two other friends either side while I was standing across from where she was sitting talking to another group of people. She and my friend were sitting in a corner with two of her other friends talking. I sat down beside them in the group but I was too far to be close enough to talk comfortably with her.

Another strange thing is I messaged her friend as well soon after I messaged her just asking how she got on and if she had a good night. I didn't get a reply from her either. Kind of confused as to why both would ignore me considering one of them had added me to FB that morning.

I guess i'll just be passive about the whole thing but as you said go ahead and engage her next time I see her. It could be that she's trying to spike my interest due to the fact that I hadn't made a move on her and her being close to my friend was a way to try make me jealous and come to her. Then again, there's no point in analysing this. I'll know next time I see her.

I feel AFC when it comes to this chick though. It's pissing me off.

Don't overanalize your situation. I don't think she wants you to be jealous, it's more likely that she's losing interest in you so next time you'll have to show her that you are the better alpha guy she ever met.

^ That sounds an awful lot like proving yourself, which is a form of chasing. That rarely works.

I am who I am. What I try to do with a girl is get her to feel or think about things. Not prove to her I'm worthy. If I have to convince her I'm good enough for her, I'm very unlikely to succeed.

You've already showed her who you are at a distance. She was into you when she was around you. Is she attracted to you a month plus later with little contact? Probably not, honestly. Girls are fickle and very much in the moment. Unless she just finds you to be very physically attractive, her interest is going to drain away as she forgets those emotions she felt when she was with you. The fact that she lost her attraction doesn't mean she finds you unattractive, it means things cooled off because you haven't been with her. Get with her again and you may well find she's just as into you as before. Possibly more so.

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Thanks for the solid input guys.

Thinking back on it just last week at a club she was still really into me(second time meeting her, first time was a month before when I was hooking up with another girl who happened to be there). She was almost always in proximity to me, looking at me from time to time and increased her attention towards me by grabbing at my phone, smiling and blowing out my lighter from across the table. Little things to grab at my attention plus her friend seemed to be gauging my interest in her by making statements about her.

Versalis, I think you're right, I gave too much of myself from a distance and zero in person. I've either conveyed to her I don't have much interest in her(I have been very passive in relation to her) or i'm weak in the sense that I haven't made a move on her which would be a turn off. I think this sums up to me not gaming her at all, at least in a personal space but more showing higher mannerisms and being sought after as the guy everyone wants to be and wants to have around. I generally do get a lot of people seeking validation from me in groups. My actions towards her have either shown that she's not interesting enough for me which is a turn off over a period of time or i'm just too shy to make a move on her.

Even so I would have thought messaging her the next day would have at least gotten a reply if even a one word message. The fact she didn't reply either says she's switching from paying attention to playing hard to get or she's pissed that I haven't gone after her and doesn't want to dedicate any time to me. That or she's pissed off over what happened the other night... I was around and my mate basically tried pressuring her into sleeping with him and tried to make out with her. I sat by and didn't interject(But should I have? I hadn't even shared much in way of conversation with her).

I'm not saying you need to seek her validation but only demonstrate that you are not the usual guy that hits on her (like your friend).

They didn't even kiss right? -->she wasn't interested in him --> yes, you should have done that

Ah, I don't know. I generally don't like stepping on my bro's toes but it's gotten to the point with this dude that he'll literally hit on anything and everything. He's not a bad guy, he's fun, knows a lot of people but he really can't control himself when he's drunk. He goes full shotgun approach and gets clingy the longer the night progresses. Bit of a loose cannon.