Ex texted me out of the blue, says she misses me as a friend and has a boyfriend now. I said I wasn't interested in her friendship and she asked why, I replied with "I don't think it would be healthy for either of us." She then said "Ok, I thought maybe we could"

I haven't thought out how to phrase it yet, but I want to text her back one more time to get my intentions clear and that is - I want her, and not as friend. And If she's down for that then to hit me up. If not, stay out of me life.


Can anyone help me out on how to phrase that? I was thinking something along the lines of
"Look Nicole, I'm not single right now but god forbid if there's a day when we both are and you would like to go on a date, we could talk about friendship afterwards."

Please note we've been broken up for like 8 months so I'm totally cool with her dating some other dude. And I also don't want to sound too direct on still wanting her or having feeling for her because I don't want to come off as "We broke up 8 months and and I still think about and miss you everyday".

Edit: And yes, I do still have feeling for her despite the fact that I've dated other women in this time.

Well brother, I think you need to just tell her the truth. I can see you want that, you want her to understand. You can be clear about it, your not trying to be her friend or in her life. This is all about what you want, tell her what YOU want. Her choice will be how she tells you what she wants.
"I would only want you to be a part of my life if we were dating. Otherwise our lives are none of each other's business."
Something like that, make it CLEAR, and BRIEF. No need to excessively explain your decisions, but you've honestly stated how you feel, and your walking away. Only respond to her when she contacts you after this. She misses you, and its time for you to see how much. Her actions will tell you

All or nothing never works with girls man. Especially not for the long term. They begin to resent you shortly after.

What you are trying to do is emotional rape.. Its horrible and selfish. You're no longer relying on your own wit, your own charisma, nor your own charm. You're all king kong like " THIS IS WHAT I WANT. GIVE IT TO ME! IF NOT. FUCK YOU!!!!! ". I know I may of made it sound dramatic; but women are dramatic bro. Thats how she'll see. And with all do respect; thats a loser mentality. Its like the 5 year old crying in screaming with his mommy in the store because she won't give him candy.

You're better than that.. A WHOLE lot better.

Stop trying to cheat the system; go get her the way we all get our girls. You trying to skip on to the top with one line is lazy. And its chances of working is slim to none.

I hope I cut through.

PEace & Love

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