| Admittedly from day 1 me and my girl have had rabid sex constantly (like 2 times at least every time we see each other, several times a week). We both have admitted we've never had more or better sex with anyone else, and she comments on the chemistry ect, and it is believable because of how damn frequently we both initiated it.
In the honeymoon phase up until about 1.5 years in we both initiated very spontaneously, about 50-50.
When I noticed my appetite exceeded hers by a little bit (got an "i'm tired" or a "we have to wait"), I backed off and let her come to me more.
It turned into her initiating like 75 percent of the time, and she would initiate like twice each time I saw her. I certainly was the gatekeeper to sex I suppose.
A few times she even got a little insecure and asked "I worry I am more attracted to you than you are to me" and "how come I am the one initiating alot, I feel annoying."
Occasionally I would make her wait, and rarely would I turn her down.
Well One day, she said "we should take advantage of this alone time..." gets on my lap, then stops as we get heavy. She says: "I read somewhere that if you have sex alot than you don't want it as much because it is too easy, I don't want to do it just to do it."
So in my head I am thinking, why the hell does she constantly initiate then! So we don't have sex then, but fast forward 5 hours and she is on top of me again begging and literally raping me for my dick "ok I have waited long enough (sexy voice). Then we have it again the next day.
So things go on in this way for a few weeks. Then we have a conversation about how she thinks I don't enjoy sex as much as she does and how I don't initiate as much as she does. And the fact that I had trouble getting a boner so maybe we shouldn't have it as much (I have porn induced ED, recovering, but she understands and is supportive).
That night after having that^ contradictory conversation (you don't initiate or want it as much as I do! but lets not have it as much!), I didn't push for sex and neither did she. Then she says "see, I didn't initiate and you didn't either, I have needs lets have sex"
And we did. Then the next day she said "i'm horny" and we had sex.
What is her game here? Clearly her initiating it doesn't make it a chore in her eyes, so why does she initiate alot but say lets have it less! I'm not pushing for it!
Don't get me wrong I do caveman her randomly, I am ultra aggressive once she initiates every time, ect.
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