Uncomfortable Post-Makeout Silence



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PostPosted: Fri Feb 29, 2008 6:46 am 
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Where should I take the conversation between or after makeout sessions, during the comfort building stage. (Assuming it is to early in the game to begin forplay)


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Actually thats a good question, i've never really thought about this before.
I suppose its depends on the mood and the enviroment. Say if we was in a bar/club i would probly just carry chatting like i was before. But we were on a sofa or in the street the mood would be set abit lower so i would be alittle less energy and keep things smooth.
But im not sure, i try not to be a moment killer but sometimes alittle joke or tease doesn't go a miss. Just keep the conversation as before, unless you want to escalate

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Exactly as mozy says.

However try not to fear the silence afterwards. I bet most of you experienced this as well; U made out with this amazing HB , had a spectacular moment ,and then ... she starts to blabber like hell. I couldn help but thinking "why wont u just shut it ?"

Sometimes a comfortable silence works as good as talking , if u do feel the urge to break the silence , be sure u know WHAT u are gonna say. Blabbering like a fool is such a turnoff :wink:

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This is a very interesting question, and one which is best answered depending on the situation. However, what i have found to be very sucesful is something that i was reading in if i recall was Mysterys writings.

When making out in a club or bar i find that a 2 steps forward 1 step back is the best policy to use. If i have been making out with a girl, i will smile and suggest that maybe we should go back and join our friends. At which point you lead her back to her group of friends. In doing this you are showing her that you are not just kissing her for the hell of it and that you have 'survival value'. Hopefully as well this gives you futher chances to win over her friends while continuing Kino as she is now comfortable. ;)

Hope this Helps.

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Exactly as mozy says.

However try not to fear the silence afterwards. I bet most of you experienced this as well; U made out with this amazing HB , had a spectacular moment ,and then ... she starts to blabber like hell. I couldn help but thinking "why wont u just shut it ?"

Sometimes a comfortable silence works as good as talking , if u do feel the urge to break the silence , be sure u know WHAT u are gonna say. Blabbering like a fool is such a turnoff :wink:

keruli
I still struggle with ANY type of uncomfortable silence.

One thing that has helped me, though, is to say to myself "it's no big deal".

I know that isn't saying much (funny, I know) but just relax and
appreciate the silence instead of dread it. Use it to take in the
environment. Don't fidget. Maintain confident, relaxed body language.

Here's an idea. After the make-out, slowly pull away and gaze into her
eyes. Smile (not too big), blink your eyes slowly, then break eye contact
slowly without saying a word. Slow down your body movements to create
this slow motion moment for her. Then sit back, smile (not too big) and
take in what is going on around you and relish in the moment.

Man, I'm going to have to try that myself. :)


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you shouldn't make out heavily with a chick before comfort building, hence the awkward silence


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It's strange, I'm more comfortable making out with a girl at and party or a bar, because I know that I can not advance sexually in a crowded environment. An akward silence seems less likley in a bar, because it's a high energy SPAM. A while a ago I made out with a girl at my townhouse and when we stopped we just looked at each other for ten of the longest seconds of my life. I literally couldn't think of one thing to say. So I finally broke the hush by saying that I needed a glass of water. So painful.


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If you made out with her and she seemed into it - I think it's safe to say you're past the comfort building stage. The silence is only awkward if y ou make it that way... embrace it... If it gets really silent, just say, "that was nice... you left me speechless".

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i made out with a girl at the club once and i said "wow" at the end....they dont know if i meant "wow that was great" or "wow that sucked"....

but deep down i was like "bitch yu gots the stanky breathe!"


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BREAK THE TENSION!!!

Do what I do sometimes...if I know the girl can handle it, take out a mint from
your pocket, and hand it out to her. Be like: "I think you need this... :)"

And she'll playfully hit you, then give her a nice little hug and kiss her on
the forehead.

Beautiful routine.


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