Hey all, I'm kinda new at this but i have read quite a bit of Mystery Method, Style (The Game), and David DeAngelo stuff...so at this point i can say i think i know where i went wrong, and how to ensure that it doesn't happen again. So pretty much my story goes; a few months back a girl starting flirting with me (i hadn't even heard of PUA or anything like that at this point). She was constantly sending me messages, and i'd try not to reply too fast because it wasn't like me to be an AFC or have one-itis...after a little while she started telling me how much i meant to her ect...at which point i told her the same, but not as emotional. However i was very lazy with the whole relationship...she tried to push it foward...and me not knowing what to do, wasted it. Within a little bit she had moved on (to a friend of mine unfortunately), but i had been changed from a natural C+F to a oneitis guy! So from then on i learnt the way of David DeAngelo (still not even knowing about a PUA community), it worked very well for me, alot of new girls. So pretty much now, even tho i've met dozens of other girls, and i'm starting Uni so i'll meet many more, i still have this oneitis in me that thinks about her (which sucks). The girl and I are still close friends, but she's always bitchy (so i dont know if thats an IOI), and i dont want to put myself into the situation where i hear LJBF!

So i was wondering if any of you would be able to help me with where i went wrong (your Point of View), and how to go about my situation (keep pushing or just completely go on with things [which is what i've been trying to do...but these damn oneitis thoughts try to hold me back]).

Thanks.

Time to move on. As hard as you may try when you have one-itis and in a relationship with that girl. You will not be able to come off as non-needy. When you have one-itis you aren't fully willing to let her go, she'll know what and she'll be in control mostly.

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I'd completely move on but keep her on the backburner - in other words... go on with your life but stay in touch with her. Make it overly clear to her that you just want to be friends with her. You can talk to her about new girls you've met. You have to be careful not to make it obvious that you're trying to make her jealous. Occassionaly drop little "stabs" in there about a new girl you met. For example, say something like this:
"So I'm going out with this girl on Friday -- she's as dumb as a stump.. but she's hot as hell.

She's like "Playboy Hot"... ya know what I mean... like there are some girls that are "Playboy Hot" and there are some who are "cute-hot" -- like you're more "cute-hot". She may get a little offended so before she has a chance to respond.. just continue with... "Don't get me wrong... you're a very attractive girl - I wasn't trying to compare you 2".

Eventually she'll start wondering why you're not into her anymore and she'll try to get you liking her again. The key is to be very consistent. You have to ALWAYS make it clear that you aren't interested in her until she starts to "come back to you".

I hope this helps.

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Thanks for the replies, i'm gonna try to put both into action, ensure she knows that i'm over her and date others. I already feel the one-itis leaving...i've made it a mission to get over my shyness, and make sure i get more 'playboy hot' chicks. It's been a pretty good start with sarging. Its Mardi Gras so most girls are easy to chat-up (which is a major confidence builder)