I was out at a party this weekend gaming this girl i had just met with everything running smoothly, and then all of the sudden she pulls the 'I have a BF' card on me. She said she was embarrassed about her BF, (i took it as a major IOI) but i pulled back a bit because her BF was my friends lil bro and hes a cool kid. anywho it got me thinking. currently i am not in an actual relationship with anyone at the moment, but when i am- how do i counter the BF-destroyers. i obviously cant be there all the time when that little fruitcake tries to pull one on me to muck up my relationship, but if i suspect she has been manipulated by someone do i kinda restart the game within my relationship to re-ensure that the attraction stays there when its on the line? what are your guys's thoughts?

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'how do i kinda restart game within my relationship'
I think i heard you right?

Here it is, the game never stops, if you stop doing the things that made her attracted to you in the first place, then guess what? She's gonna stray. Im not saying keep on negging, push/pull & running routines on her, but just be fun, cocky + funny, be aplha, dont always running to her when she calls and dont let the relationship become boring.
If you turn wussy & become predictable you may lose her. Keep the attraction there.

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[quote="mozyFresh"] Im not saying keep on negging, push/pull & running routines on herquote]

well yeah, jus because i got the thumbs up to be in a relationship doesnt mean that it automatically flicks a switch where i can go back to AFC and become all needy and what not. thats what i mean when i said 'restart' (i suppose it a little too strong of a term for what im getting at) like start throwing in the odd neg here and there, etc.

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Yeah keep up the negs, just like taking the micky, jokingly. And all the cocky + funny smart ass comments. I've always done this naturally, it doesn't hurt, its just being playful and keeping things fun.

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haha just making sure, im not dealing with this right now, but its for future refrence

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There isn't a single thing you can do to ensure that your girl is gonna be faithful to you. That's the cold hard truth. Now here's the warm fuzzy; if you make her powerfully attracted to you, not just sorta attracted and you share a deep connection and emotional bond, as well as giving her better sex than she ever thought was possible, then you don't have to do a single thing to keep her, cause she wouldn't dream of leaving you.

If this is a big concern for you, then I'd suggest you read David Shade's Secrets of Female Sexuality and David Shade's Manual, because he goes over that about 1000 times between the two books.

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meh its not that big of a deal, but the books you mentioned are ones i havent heard of yet. is there a link you can send me or a place where i can find them?

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Yeah thats what i meant. If her high level attraction for you remains she wont even think about letting you go or drifting. And if you're doing all the right things and she still cheats on you, you know what to do, get rid of her, because that would just prove that she is no good for you.

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Don't worry Mozy, I know what you meant, just wanted to make sure he did and David Shade is the master in my opinion.

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I know, cool. Do you see the David Shade book(s) pop up on ebay often, or is it something i'll have to keep an eye out for.
Also who wrote that book 'the selfish gene?' is it worth reading, i seen it in a book for like 9 quid, but did'nt know whether it was worth buying or not.

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The name sounds familiar, but I can't remember anything else about that book.

As for David Shade's Manual, I don't know how often it shows up on ebay, just that he mentioned that people sold it for 3 times the original price while it was still in print. Now that it's not in print, I don't know how much it will be, or how available, but for some guys, I can see it being easily worth over $100.

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Here's his site btw.

http://www.masterful-lover.com/

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thanks mate- appreciate it

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seconded for truth.

Honestly - If you sense that your girl might be the type to cheat, or want to cheat... and you guys have been in a relationship for a while - she's probably not worth your time. Save the game for early in the relationship, In the long-run, you don't want a girl that you always have to game.

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