After several weeks in a class environment Ifinally DHV over the entire classroom and gained access to the alpha female - prob HB 9.
She followed me to coffee ad we had a great time talking... She is fairly more intelligent than other girls and so we built a nice rapport. Unfortunately I chose a poor place to ak and was not able to kino properly.
Whn it was time to go she started having me follow her around and I got uncomfortable with it. So when she was saying goodbye I didn't ask for her number, hug, or anything but set up another time to meet, gave a noncommital goodbye, had a subconvious flash of insecurity in my eyes which she caught and flashed her own look of confusion, and then I around an left. :/ the convo had gone so well that I knew we had both already decided to mate. But my exit was still an issue in my mind.

So two days later I saw her again and her body language was all defensive. I started to smooth them out anf she was reapondong to kino but then I got caught up in DLVing like a mad man including leaving her alone with an extremely AFC. In class I wen back to the IOI / IOD game and I think came off way too obvious of my intentions. She was not comfortable. Rather than her waiting around after class I had to chase her out the door.

She wanted to keep me around but was very persistent about doing her thing with no give. I went along pressing through her attempts to brush me off and managed to get some DHV, and almost pull her in, but was onset by her unwavering task to force a DLV - which I also did.

Side note: she is definitely attracted to me but now doesn't trust that emotion. She pulled back heavily upon a hàir brush kino

She kept leaving but ssying if i wanted to follow her than thats fine but that she is going. I told her that she has to at least take one step towards me and I'd take the rest. She did this once. The last time she would not do it and insisted on going home and so finally at last I said "ok. Goodnight" and (at last) did a powerful detach and walk away. I won't see her now for 5 days

All in all I'm pretty sure she this was all about her being pissed about the wày I ended our coffee date.

So... Is it over? I would like to win this back. Do I have to now go though a process of paying no attention or is there hope for a direct approach fix? I would like to continue to pursue w/out wasting a lot of time (I think the the relationship will be rewarding) .

Thoughts?

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By the looks of things we are dealing with a man here who reads books - subconvious - I was filled with zeal to learn the meaning of this word unbeknownst to me, and in doing so expand my eloquence, yet alas - only to find the word did not exist!

You're DHVing over a 'c'?

Now back to my question...

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The problem with this situation is that people re-interpet their motives - how they felt at the time, what their reasons for acting in a certain way were - in accordance to the mood they feel at present. Simply put, will ascribe different motivations to ourselves and our past actions, at different points in time. You may think: "she walked away because of a flash of insecurity in my eyes". Probably because the outcome made you feel insecure about the process as a whole. Whether you truly radiated uncertainty at the time, is another thing. Perhaps she just thought of her deceased grandma in the middle of the talk. Who the fuck will ever know. We end up giving too much importance to how our actions are validated by others, what impressions we leave behind. This is a very feminine way of existence. "How to gain acknowledgement? Alpha-status? Appreciation?"

What we should be doing, is pulling off things that strike awe in their own existence, simply because people can't get around them.

Weak focus on intentions. Strong focus on consequences.