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The day after, I am always pissed. I go over my mistakes. I say:
"dammit, instead of this, I should have said that."
"dammit, my speech should have been slower. why the hell do I talk so fast?"
"that compliment was so lame. she has already heard 100 times her eye color is unique. what the hell was I thinking"
"she said she has a boyfriend just to get rid of me. dammit"
"I was so close. If it had worked, how awesome would that be"
how do you keep yourself healthy, psychologically? I am so tired and pissed that I feel like I dont want to do this any more. I would rather just masturbate.
yeah i can partially relate to that. I was kinda angry at myself as well when I felt that something had gone totally wrong. Most of the time, my problem was going for it. I felt the sparks and SPAM, but i always failed to escalate. Other times, there was a situation that i recognized from one of the books but i forgot how ot react or what to say. So I read it over and over again, repeating the situation in my head, thinking about the material, even widening it by trying to figure out how it would work in other situations.
Any way, it never discouraged me. Because I just knew that I was making progress. I even got more excited every time I read it over again and again, wondering which babe I would close.
But the one thing that really did it for me, the key to just breaking through my one fear of escalating, was going direct. I came out of a bad relationship and I was fed up with being a nice guy (amongst other things and other reasons). So i read about mode one, radical honestly, and I just tried that. The hell with figuring out what she was thinking, the hell with figuring out if i had missed something or said something wrong. Just going for it, showing huge interest or just walk away.
And I found that everything I learned before, just made so much more sense. Ofcourse I still made mistakes, but I found a whole other perspective of this pick-up knowledge. Some material which i thought was crappy, suddenly made sense. And my successes grew exponentially.
So my advice: if you are sick and tired of this and going over your mistakes again and again, try something you havent tried before, something that just seemed a step to far. Dont think, just do it. You might score, you might fail miserably but I bet you will feel relieved. And if I was you, I would just for this once, drop all the things you learned, and just relentlessy go for what you want.
Hopefully i made a bit of sense here. If not, shoot!
good luck!
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