Hi everyone,
I'm feeling really down about this HB7.5 I'm seeing (or was seeing, read the post and let me know) who I'm not sure what to label but the closest thing is a fuck buddy I guess.
We meet two weeks ago (on an online dating site) and met for a drink. From the first moment we met we hit it off big time. It was a fun night and we get along really well. Two days later we met for drinks and before I knew it we were in the sack. The sex was great.
I got the idea she is a confused girl who is trying to figure things out (she also sees a therapist). Last year she was heart broken after ending a year relationship with a Brazilian dude (she was DUMPED bad!) . She ended up chasing him to Brazil and desperately tried to win him back. She moved there for three months trying to win him back. During that period he had moved in with a new girl and was sleeping with both of them. At the end he told her he was in love with the other girl and she was really hurt. Shortly after she went out with a new guy in Brazil (whom she said she didn't love) for a few weeks and moved to London (where I met her).
After a month the new guy she broke up went to visit her for a few weeks in London and then they broke it off.
For the next few months she was settling in London and we met. As mentioned earlier by the second date we were having sex (great sex!). She said she never been with a guy with my physique (I'm quite built and athletic. I go to the gym a lot). She said she loved it and the sex. She also said I'm great looking.
The next few days we pretty much saw each other every day. I would see her after work and spend the night at her place and of course we would fuck. We also have morning sex each time.
After around 10 days while we are having dinner she tells me that the Brazilian dude she broke it off with (not the one she loved and broke her heart...the other dude) is coming to visit her in March. She said he called her recently and wanted to visit and try to rekindle their relationship and she agreed.
I was very upset. I told her "where does that leave me?". Because this happened WHILE we are seeing each other or fucking each other. She said she didn't think about us, it all happened very fast. She didn't plan it. Despite that we still went back to her place and slept together. And also had sex in the morning.
Then in the morning she said the most she can offer me is a no commitment relationship.
I am feeling very down about it. I don't know why. I fell for this girl fast. So I call her later in the after noon and she tells me she is having a stressful day at work. I ask her if I can meet her after work and she says she is meeting a friend. i said if I can meet her later...she doesn't seem she wants to and I say please and she says okay.
She calls me later at night to tell me if I wanted to come over after she sees her friend and I said no. I feel better. I had a stressful day but don't worry about it have fun with your friend (I think that surprised her). She said she will see me the next day.
We see each other the next day and go to dinner and drinks with her friends. And then as usual back to her place, have sex and I spend the night.
Friday was Valetines day and I call her up in the evening. She says she is having an anti-valentines party at her place, I said I also hate Valetines day. I ask if I can come and she said sure, whenever I want.
I call her at around 11 and she didn't pick up but sends a text "Babe...I'm falling asleep...can we see each other another night?"
I say "Sure babe...good night".
Around 1 am I am wasted with my friends at an awesome party and text her "Wow I'm at a crazy party!"...I get no response.
The next day I call her around 7 and she picks up. She said perfect time he just got home. She told me she is having her period and bleeding a lot so we can't have sex. I tell her I know what periods are. She told me that at 11 she was tired when I called, but at 11:30 her friend called her and make her get up and her friends came and they partied at her place (the party I was supposedly invited to). Instead of being upset (I was I just hid it from her) I told her well I'm glad you also had a fun night. She also asked me about my part and said she got my text.
I then ask her if she wanted to hang out, she said yes but again she has her period. She said she would be up for going to the movies. Now she was sounding tired and said she has to work early in the morning and I felt she was doing it as favor to go the movies. She says I can't do anything with you because in the mood I'm in I'll bite. I tell her well we don't two people bleeding.
Anyway, I'm not feeling great (upset in the inside but hiding it well on the phone) and can tell she is not feeling great, so I tell her "You know what, get some rest and let us see each other when you recovered". She said call. Maybe I will call you tomorrow after work. I said great let's touch base tomorrow.
The next day she doesn't call. Neither do I.
I write this the following day coming to a close. She doesn't call or text. Neither do I.
Two days have now passed with no contact. March is coming up.
I want to point in the two-weeks we saw each other each time I initiate contact either by text or call. She never does. Now she always responds and picks up the phone and agrees to meet me and we end up sleeping together at her place but NOT ONCE did she call me or contact me or just ask how I'm doing.
I'm falling for this girl.
Should I call her or wait for her to call? Do you think she will even call?
What is going on here?
Anyway I can get with her?
Would really appreciate your help!
CHAT