Hey Guys,

Need some help from the PUA community... I have been seeing a girl for about 4 weeks and she has a boyfriend.

To give a bit of background - we met online and have caught up in person twice. We also had a date online on Valentines Day as her boyfriend didn't do anything for her. Each time we caught up we have had sex.

We talk everyday, she txts me almost non-stop - most of the time I have been the same (although pulling back to make sure the interest stays). We have spoken about her feelings and my feelings - I told her I like like her and she responded with I like like you A LOT. (yes in caps).

She contently puts her boyfriend down saying she would be so much happier and her life would be so much better with me. She said that he is lame... We have also spoken about her leaving him and she says that its not that easy... She is scared that if she leaves him and things don't work out between her and I that she would end up alone and that scares her. She said that she wants to continue seeing me because she likes me so much - but she said that she wants to continue seeing him and it could take a couple of months for her to decide to leave him...

They had a holiday planned and we agreed that it was a good time to see if things would change between them - she said that she has been feeling very lonely with him and her exacts words were "You shit all over my boyfriend... I like you, but its hard..."

So my question is - how do I proceed from here?
Should I have any issue with her going away with him? Do I wait and let it play out?

I guess my main question is how can I make her feel more comfortable about giving him the boot and not ending up alone?

I have really pulled back on the conversation today - and she texted me every half hour asking if she had done something wrong - There is no doubt about the attraction in my mnd - its just getting her to see that she will be fine without him...

Any suggestions?

Dump her.. move on… if she comes back.. it was meant to be… don’t waste valuable emotional energy, time investment on chasing her right now..

Find a way to get your head right… and game some other chicks in the meantime.. ignore her if she texts or calls… and if it gets her steamy and hooked.. you will essentially influence her to take action and dump the loser —— but it’s all a crap shoot… lower expectations and forget her… it may end up in your favor — but don’t put all ur eggs in this basket.. it’s going to be a pandora’s box and u’ll end up alienating her anyway if u get too available for her.. just respect the situation.. and wait ur turn — but find other chicks in the meantime.. eventually — if she changes her mind and wants u… you’ll prob be over her anyway.. but at least u will be in control and have the power in the situation.. just move on.. and then let the situation work itself organically… it can be done.. but it’s not the best way to spend ur time..

Fair?

Listen to him. I did this once and it works. But if it doesn't you'll have another chicks.
Wise!

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--Brazilian Guy!--
I don't speak your language but we have women, carnaval, soccer and lots of political and social problems.

Do you really want her as your girlfriend? Ask yourself that. Don't be blinded by her pussy. If you just want sex, tell her to stay with her boyfriend. She won't be fucking him anyway and he will make sure other dudes don't come onto her while you're fucking other girls. It'll be like having your very own eunuch, only, he won't be aware of it, haha! This way you will get all the pussy without all the drama of a relationship.

If she is the type of girl who texts you every half hour, you shouldn't even be considering entering a relationship with this girl. Every time you leave the house she will be texting every half hour saying "WHERE WERE YOU I THOUGHT YOU WERE DEAD OMG R U CHEATING ON ME :@ :@ :@"

look dude, the fact that she has a bf and cheating on him makes her an unloyal person. so what makes you think that she wouldn't do the same to you anyways this is free pussy enjoy it.