Hey guys,

Just was confronted with following situation and need some help:

Today three girls were visiting me and my friends at our house (overall 4 guys and 3 girls were visiting). Everything was working perfect, i have lead all the conversation and everyone was just loving me, so was the target. But beside showing a lot of IOIs to me, she also showed a lot of IOIs to my buddies...

How do you interprete IOIs when your target is giving them also to others?

Many thanks

sky

She's a flirt and you're playing her game. Flirt back if you want but be prepared for competition with the other dudes she's pitting you against. Just show disinterest in/disdain for being any part of the whole process (which honestly shouldnt be that hard) ... step back from it instead of becoming part of it and just watch what she's doing. Once you can stand in the place of observing her then you've got her number.

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'Neg' your friends. As long as they don't know what you're doing it'll will all be a bit of fun to them. But really you're lowering their value, upping yours and thus the girl becomes more attracted to you. Or at least that's how I'd do it..

Benji89

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You can't play a player.

...why would you neg your friends? That might be the worst idea I've ever heard on here, and that's really saying something.

Agree with snarg, negging your friends only lowers your own value and says a lot about what kind of a person you are.

Control yourself, don't get attached, flirt back then pull away and start flirting with another girl.

Also test her limits of flirtation, you can always apologize.

I really get the point with not getting into the "situation" or "being one of the guys she flirts with". But if you just ignore it and the other guys have some game, dont you just lose her then by showing disinterest?

I dont really get the solution here.

TheEroticJester summed it up perfectly. Get in, get out, then flirt with other women. If you do it right, she'll realize her little plan to get you and your friends to compete has backfired and she'll wonder why. That's what you want to happen. There is no need to ever talk down on your friends to get this to happen.

I'll admit, my input may have been harsh. However I do come from an area where some top PUAs agree that game has to be at its fastest (Essex, UK). So I'm used to playing tougher and faster. Not that it always works, but hey, it's game.

Hope you get the best out of your situation!

Benji89

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You can't play a player.

I see it like this: she's being the "controller" of the situation. Imagine the feeling you would get if you were able to pit several women against each other for your attention while you stood back allof. I would imaging that's the kick she's getting.

I've read in several places how that if you want to get her, than you have to give up the opportunity of getting her. And seriously, even if you "won", you're still her puppet that she manipulated. What happens when she finds someone of more value? dump.

By being "above" her game she'll probably be frustrated that she can't control you. Show her that, in your eyes, she actually lowers her own value by playing these stupid games and that you're not interested in low value women. As well, by not even paying attention to it all, you DHV over all the other LV chumps.

Once she realizes she can't control you then reward her with attention if/when she alters her behavior towards you and gives up some of her power to you. But be ready to walk away/freeze out if she trys to chump you again.

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