My best friends got a new roommate a year back and we started seeing each other for about 3 months, every weekend. We fooled around, but i didnt f-close, within first couple weeks of us officially having a thing. Everything was going pretty well and then a month ago, she said she wasnt looking for a relationship(she just got out of one before us) and i said it was cool. Then we continued as usual but we just had the dreaded "talk" a couple days ago and she wants us as just friends. She said its too hard being in this grey casual area and its screwing with her head. We see each other every weekend regardless of our status because she lives with my best friends and i stay over with them. She has a lot of guys friends, and she said when im around, she cant hang out with them because she feels obligated to me and doesnt want to hurt my feelings. I told her im chill with it and she should in no way feel obligated to me since were not in a relationship and that just because im over, doesnt mean she cant go hang out with friends. she says that not possible because she will always feel bad.. shes a genuinely caring person so i honestly believe her. So all this coupled with the fact that the initial spark we had has kind of diminished, its just friends now. Theres still attraction between us but i feel like shes going to try hard to not act on it.

Is there any bouncing back on this? Any tips or success stories would be greatly appreciated.

Ive read the best way to get out of the "friend zone" is to just freeze her out for a while. I cant really do that though since im still going to have to see her every weekend because she lives with my friends and im not going to just sit at home by myself.

The first two sentences of your post was enough for me. Read this!

http://www.girlschase.com/content/does- ... thing-else

By the way, where does this freeze-her-out-if-you-become-friendzoned-bullshit come from? There are too many guys believing in that shit. If you become friendzoned, that is just because you have been Mr Nice Guy, dating for too long without taking it anywhere etc. Things you need to work on are:

1. Make her want to fuck you on the spot, the first time you meet her (or at least the second time). You do this by affirming your sexual lust towards the girl, and give her the vibe that "I can fuck you anytime". She should almost be able to see the steam from your body, and hear your heavy breathing. With other words, work on your body language and subcommunication.

2. When you are friendzoned, you should not "freeze her out" as some pathetic need for revenge. Instead, make sure to have the abundance mentality and go out and meet other women. You are simply not interested in "being friends", and thus not calling her anymore. But if she contacts you, you should always respond and be positive (no freezing out).

I don't know how to make a proper link in this forum, but here is the definition of "abundance mentality":

http://www.pualingo.com/pua-definitions ... mentality/

Great response Hugge! I really enjoyed the first link you posted. Initially, she was all about boyfriending me, she said so when we had that latest talk. Looking back, I pussied out and never tried to push for it though. I didnt realize it at the time and didnt want to risk what little we had going already. I definitely did get "friend zoned" due to dating too long without a lack of direction.

Im going to take the advice and try to adapt the abundance mentality. Thats definitely what i need. I get picked up on a lot even when me and the girl would be out together, but i was holding out so i havent made myself available. NO MORE! Im going to make her a side project and start putting myself out there! I feel like this will help all around because we will still be going out to bars and such since we have the same friends, and now shes going to have to see me with all these beautiful girls i would have had to give the cold shoulder to before. I dont think she realizes yet what shes lost. Im going to have some fun with new women and if shes comes back in the progress, its a bonus.

Anyways, thanks for the input man! Keep doing your thing!