ok so i got in touch with my ex the other day. she set up an eBay for us and i wanted to swap it over to me. anyways

so i went out with her for nearly 2 years and we broke up in March last year. mostly due to my drinking. (im now 9 months sober) anyway

so we spoke on email about the account and i i mentioned i would need to speak to her son to do my step 9 with her (spoke about meeting up before)

i put this first section in for a bit of talk in for a bit of background info.



ex: ok can u let me know when cos im realy busy SPAM with exams etc.

me: it may be a month before i can meet up because my sponsor has 2 new sponsees and iv been sidelined. id be jealous if i didnt take it as a compliment.

ex: Your doing really well, its hard to say that without sounding condesending. but im proud of how far you have come

me: Thanks!!!!! how come your not in Wales, or did you drive up there like a lunatic.

(her family and boyfriend live in wales)





ex: i have an assignment in next week so im staying down here to finish it off.

me: Is it working or are you texting me as an avoidence tactic. tut tut Naughty Girl

(now we have not had a proper conversation since we broke up. apart from when she picked her stuff up. and sorting a few things out)

ex: lol having the night off tonight and starting early tomorrow.

me:thats not very disciplined of you "surname". and i bet your off out partying tonight too "shakes head mournfully"
(now iv never called her by her surname before it was always jo or Jolene. i did this to start associating me as someone else, and also to be playful)

ex: in my pj's watching tv and drining hot chocolate... real party animal lol

me: sounds fun, i'll have whipped cream with mine. dont tell me u aint got any cos thats just not good enough. better than my night anyway. im ripping code from websites. us non drinking ppl really know how to live it up lmao.
( i got told this was a bit rude would love feedback)

ex: lol no cream: watching my waist line. i must admit i dont miss the nights out anymore.

Me: well thats it now. no cream, u'v blown your chance. and i was gonna give u a massage and everything. and yes i know what u mean. i went out a few weeks ago and came home early cos it was boring.
(now i said masssage cos she always wanted a massages. and they also usually meant oral too)

ex:last time i went out i was home by 9pm lol.

me: come on "surname" 9pm is bad even by my old man mentality. so when u gonna let me give you this massage then.
(as you may have noticed her total lack of response has not put me off. im just totally assuming attraction. not hard in this case)

ex: Behave Moody
(now she is getting into my frame, calling each other by our surnames, having fun)

me: well i was gonna shout at you for spelling my name wrong but u didnt. this is behaving, if i was being a naughty boy i would have suggested drinks tomorrow night. say 8. that way i can have u wrapped up in bed by 9. but as you can see im not being naughty. im being nice. so would half 8 better or would 8 be good for u.

( ok lot of stuff here, im using language to convey a sexual undertone ie naughty, nice. also using words to take her back to when she was young and she felt protected. wrapped up in bed. again compliments the frame im trying to establish.) (the last bit is an and or statement to get her thinking about which is a better time not whether she wil come or not.)

also had no idea why i put in the thing about my surname.

ex: stil a complewte flirt aernt u.

i took this as a bit of a shit test, ie u havnt changed, please correct me if im wrong.

me: nothing could be further from the truth, im merley inviting an old friend for a drink of cocacola. its not even like i could get you drunk and have my wicked way with you. u dont drink.

( i said this because i wanted her to start condoning meeting me in her head. i.e its only a drink with hank, nothing really. while keeping the sexual undertone.)

ex:i cant hun i got far too much work to do.

(bit gutted really)

me: wow so my rouse to be all innocent was seen. Damn "surname" when did u get so smart. ps its really windy out.

(so i completly lost it here. i was trying to be funny and blow her refusal off. didnt work i think.)

ex: yep saw right through it lol. yeah its gone really windy.


ok so stil no mention of her BF. which i take is good. also my sheer persistence (thanks Jez) paid off, she came into my frame. and i was dealing with a girl who was extremly hostile towards me 9 months ago.

ok so any feedback would be more than appreciated. if i have said i did anything and i was completly wrong please tell me.

thanks for reading.

so i saw this and couldnt believe how good my game used to be!!!! whether i was right or wrong i knew what i was doing and i did it, funny to look back on something like this after so long away from the field