Hey guys. I have been talking to this one girl for a while now, and I asked her to come chill at my house the other day. Long story short, she was very turned on, but didn't want to have sex. With this being said, we have fucked before, but it is usually after parties or when we are both pretty drunk. This time we were both sober, but we were just kind of messing around/feeling each other up. etc.(Which, as stated before, is why I know she was turned on) Now don't get me wrong, having drunk sex is fine, but sometimes I would rather be into it completely and not have to go buy drinks at the bar.

She used the excuse that we should "know each other better first", which was a surprise to me, as we already had sex in the past. I am assuming that being drunk was a way for her to subconsciously make her self feel comfortable about it. (I am pretty sure this is referred to as ASD? Correct me if I am wrong) Is there a way that I might be able to get around this, or things that might make it easier to close? I know this isn't really a "one size fits all" question, but some tips would be GREATLY appreciated.

On a side note, I have heard from a couple people that she is considered as a cock tease and leads guys on. Which is why during the night we hung out sober I tended to use small negs (she has pretty short hair for a woman, something that her friends tease her about too) and refused to do little things that she could have done herself. (getting a blanket, getting a drink from the fridge, both of which were a couple feet away.) At first she seemed to respond very well, as I always kind of played it off in a joking kind of manner, but I have a feeling this could have been part of the reason that we didn't have sex. She said things like "maybe if you would have done (X) for me we could have had sex", which instinctively I am imagining as just another way for her to try and show her dominance I guess. Any thoughts on if this could happen/ how to avoid something like this from happening?

Again, didn't do this because I am not a nice guy, from what I have heard though, putting a woman on such high of a pedestal will just lead to negative side effects. And please, if this should be posted somewhere else, or I am not using PUA lingo in the right fashion, just let me know. Don't be a dick about it.

tl;dr Girl only wants to have sex while drunk; LMR when sober. Lingering possibility that negging/not doing simple things for her led me even further away from having sex.

Any thoughts?

Thanks!