Hello

First of all I'm very 'new' to women. It's only recently that I started going out often and that I had my first crush. I'm now 18 yo and I want to take matters in my own hands.

So recently I fell in love with someone from my dorm. Pretty sweet that she 'lives' 1 door away from me. We kinda spontaneously started texting. But after one week, we both went home to study at our houses for finals so we wouldn't see eachother for 1,5 months. We texted eachother but then comes my huuuuuuggggeeeeee mistake. In a discussion I said just too much. She immediately knew that I was in love with her. She kinda answered very honest by saying 'it was only friends from her side'. My hope was gone, friendzoned. But then she said that she falls in love very slowly with guys and thus I shouldn't think that she is playing games with my feelings if it takes a long time. We have kept texting but my emotions were like a rollercoaster. One time she was talking about sleeping together and sending <3's but then the next day 'there was still nothing'. She also told me that most of the time, after a kiss, she knows if she likes a guy. 'If the kiss is right, I know it.'

One thing is remarkable. If I change my texting pattern, she immediately asks why I do that. For instance, after quite some discussion she said something I didn't like. The days after that, I texted less and she immediately asked why I'm behaving differently. This week I also didn't send a goodmorning text and she sent me 'no goodmorning text?'.
We text througout the whole day.

I know I really did a stupid thing, but love blinded me I guess. Now I can overthink it more rationally and that is why I come here.

So what I want to know. Is she just texting me for attention? Is it still possible to seduce her? What techniqhes could I use through texting? Ik bout 3 weeks we can see eachother irl.

Thanks in advance.

Ano

Hey mate been there. As far as your txt saying too much its over in the past she told you how she feels she's clearly not weirded out by it so don't give it another thought. As far as texting never get into a pattern and have her know exactly when you're gonna text her mix it up be exciting. Instead of texting her at night give her a call. Right now she's used to talking to you it sounds like everyday I'm gonna say step back don't txt her for a day or two. Make her miss your attention don't let her think she can have it whenever she wants your time is valuable. Don't be a dick just show that you're independant and have a life too.

When I found myself in a situation like this another poster on here gave me some of the best advice I'm gonna give it to you. Your emotions are chemical reactions that influenece your thoughts. Don't do what your emotions tell you to do what your thoughts tell you to.

Also google general text overview and there's a thread on here with some really good openers.
But the best advice I can give you is text, but don't be needy, mix in phone calls, and don't fall into a redundant pattern of texting mix it up keep it light funny and sensual.

Hope that helps Good luck!!

I am also confused about this ha ha ha i want to fix my GF body now she is feeling lazy than before but her SEX power is increasing day by day.

Sounds like she's playing push-pull on you.

For face value when she says "I know if I like a guy after the first kiss" that's pretty much hinting that she's willing to kiss you to "know" if she likes you or not. She wants you to make a move.

Go out, have a drink or two, isolate her and try kiss her. What's the worst that can happen? LJBF? At least you know!

A date is nearly impossible right now, because she lives a fair distance away and I should be studying , but in 3 weeks we live together and we always go to the same bar, so that's a positive.

Do you guys think I should keep giving more 'sexual' hints or just stay low for the moment?

I also read some stuff on push pull method. I think this will really drive her crazy becaude she is the most curious person I've ever met. Is it a good plan to try this a little?

Thanks for the answers! Really appreciate it

Edit: we both go skiing (apart from eachother) the week before we see eachother again, so we won't be able to text and I'm also not planning to because it will be great fun with my friends.

Work on other girls and practice this stuff on them. There's positives to this with the current girl, mostly the fact that she'll be driven crazy when she sees you give others attention.

Pay more attention on other girls (two more), and practice your skill

Is it possible to suddenky get feelings by texting someone, or would that be more likely to happen in real life?

I'm also going to be less predictable and decided to not text her today (or atleast for the morning, to start with). Let's say she days something like: "Are you mad? Why don't you answer?" ... How should I respond to that or shouldn't I gove ot attention?

No, not two more.

Ten more.

Abundance mentality is insanely vital.

So I woke up earlier than usual and decided to let her text first. Didn't look at my phone. Then I went to check it and there were 5 messages and even later I just responded : "good morning " like nothing happened. Of course she started asking if something was wrong etc. but I just said everything is fine, but I feel she still thinks there's something wrong and wants to find out what. I think she really got too used to the attention I give her at regular times (study breaks, dinner time, after studying).

Did I do this well or should I completely ignore her I following days (she will think that she caused "the problem").

I also plan on getting more contact with women and who knows eve more. Especially ski trip would be a great opportunity to that, because there are no rules there. Plenty of fish in the sea.