Good evening wolfpack and thanks for reading my topic. Straight to the subject:



Whenever i am making new friends, i sense and scan if the person is a potential threat to me..

I get this feeling, maybe insecurity, mindset, feeling of, not trusting, and feeling threatened or seing any men as a possible competitor who i dont like to have around or very close by if there is a HB im into is near ?



Could that happen because i dont trust in myself enought or just i maybe dont make things clear and draw the line with the males regarding to HBs? (I have been said i am very permissive)


Sometimes i just get this .....not trusting in any men feeling...i know its a thing of my mind, there are really great guys to have as friends.... has somebody came across this ?


Ideas are very welcomed

Sounds like insecurity on your part.

You know, these guys you speak of are generally AMAZING vehicles for DHV. The HB is observing the way you interact with them so looking at them as potential threats (which anybody is I suppose) is counter-productive I think. Plus, if you become "cool" with these dudes, you can see where their faults are and exploit them to your benefit.

Is the guy being ultra douchey to the waitress? Make sure you treat yours with respect. Is he she a bit annoyed by one of the guys being loud and obnoxious? Be the mature one. When you can observe both HB and men at the same time, WHILE ALSO adjusting your game, its a great position to be in.

As they say, keep your "enemies" closer.