This is not really a girl problem but I wanted to ask your opinions because there are some people here who really understand human relationships (which is something I don't understand at all)

There is a group of guys that I have been working with for about 8 months. We met because of business reasons, but after a while, we became closer.

Recently, we have become more "buddies" than professional colleagues, we talk about pussy, sex, hookers, weed. things that buddies talk about. I like this more than being polite and fake with each other.

Then I did something stupid. the other day, one of the guys was asking me if I got any numbers recently. I said no. He said "you cant be shy in this world" etc. etc. Then I said "It's not that I am shy. I am not a people person, I don't enjoy interacting with people" then he said "then why do you come here? why do you enjoy interacting with us?" I said "who said I enjoy being with you guys? you are just professional colleagues for me" that wasn't my exact sentence but it was something like that.

Then, the guy became really quiet and basically stopped talking to me the whole day. So I think we are no longer "buddies"

Any idea how I can recover from this? I want to be buddies with them again. I was going to text him "Hey man, I enjoy hanging out with you" but that might make things worse, no?

And if you are wondering why I said that: some shy people (like me) are ashamed of being shy, so they will try whatever they can to make it look like they are not shy. When he called me shy, I was just trying to pretend I am not shy, and that's how I made this mess.

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Buy a good Spanish wine (something like Sangre de Toro or Fundador) and a couple of Cuban cigars preferably Cohiba. Offer those to the guy you offended and say, "Let's celebrate. (State any valid reason here)." No need to apologize or say, "I'm sorry."

If you can't afford Cohiba Cuban cigars, the next best things are Cohiba Dominican Republic cigars. Guys react based on actions; not words. Let these guys know (through actions and not words) that you took special effort to enjoy their company and you want to share something special that happened in your life with them.

Good friends go a long, long way.

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