I was so good a few years ago before the ex. She shat on pretty much everything I thought about myself during the few years we dated, and for some reason I took it all and swallowed it. My confidence was so low after we broke up I took several months to get my head straight and work on myself.

I thought I was doing better and was ready to date again. I went out with a nice woman and we had a nice time. I thought I was doing well but then I over-thought the whole damn thing. I was nervous when it came time for the kiss. I was awkward like a fucking high school kid. I used to bang hot girls all the time. There was no one that I couldnt have if I wanted them. I had the look in my eye that they were going to be mine..and they would be. I cant get that attitude back no matter how hard I try and honestly it just kills me because the rejection just reinforces how terrible I am now. I even started to question my looks again, something I havent done in years. Even when I remind myself that I used to hook up with whoever I wanted, I still cant get over it. Then I have the ex in my head and how hot she was and she is probably getting chased by tons of guys and I am doing the guy thing and having to do all this work just to get rejected.

What the fuck is wrong with me? It is like I reverted back to what I was even before I got any game. Any help is very much appreciated.

Hey man I had a similar situation another poster on here Joey Skillz really cleared it up for me. I'll tell you what he told me. You can't keep anything that you are scared to lose. I was dating this girl I really liked her to the point I was scared to lose her over thought everything in the end I ended up losing her. The next girl I focused on myself kept taking care of myself and had the attitude that I'm gonna keep doing what I'm doing you can be a part of it and as things progress and you put effort in I'll gradually make you more and more apart of my life. And we're still dating. You need to change up your attitude because like I was told women are 90% more intuitive then men if that's you're attitude she can read you're not confident that you're not happy with yourself. You have to be happy with yourself before you can be happy with anyone else. That was my problem with the girl I dated I was not happy with myself she brought me happiness and was my main source of happiness therefore I wanted more of it and as much as I'm not a needy or clingy person I was coming off as one. That was ultimately the end of the relationship. Basically what I'm saying is find happiness in yourself before you try and find it in someone else. Also I would recommend researching techniques to improve your inner game as well as getting past limiting beliefs. I'm no expert, but I think those are your main problems right now, but I'm not an expert. I'm only speaking from my own experience. Anyway that's my insight hopefully it helps you out. Good luck!!

Of course, that happens when you are out of the game for a while. Don't beat yourself up. You'll get it back when you start going out again.

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Chris
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It happens man. Many of us (including me) have had bad relationships that messed up our minds. I was lost for a few years after my girlfriend and I split. I couldn't pull myself together right away. But then I started to really push myself, try to not worry about the past and just focus on the future. The past has no bearings on the future anyway, unless you did something really dumb and awful.

It's all about remembering you can get the girl anytime you, and you need to learn not to care what someone thinks of you. It will take time, but you'll get over it.

Thanks brothers! I appreciate the advice. I think another thing is not to force it if I am not ready yet