Hello. I need some advice with a hb8 i am trying to lay again.

So basically we've had kinda a relationship the last 4 years where we knew we were both into each other kinda, but never really got anywhere with it. About 6 months ago she was single and we hooked up, but about 2 weeks after that she got back with her boyfriend (because I had a gf when we hooked up [shame]).

So now I find myself craving a little fling again, but she's still with this guy. The positive is he is a douchebag who is locked up, but whenever I try to set up a date with her all i get is "Idk, I'm scared to hang out with you because then all my feelings might come back for you". I really don't know how to handle this situation, you would think that would be a good thing but apparently not in her book because of this other guy.

Her current BF is "locked up" as in he is in prison?

That seems like a pretty good reason for her to stray - if that's what you meant.

Regardless, that's her call - if she's blatantly flirting with you while staying with Mr Douchebag she's still somewhat interested... However you weren't really clear on whether that was the case.

With the limited details you've provided - I would say your best move to get the girl out with you and to at least hear what you have to offer is to suggest a really innocent meet-up. Preface it with just as friends and say you just want to catch up over a coffee or a beer. See what's possible as far as escalation goes once you're there. I'd suggest some kind of boyfriend destroyer but if fella is in prison and that hasn't managed to destroy the relationship maybe she's in it for the long haul with him...

Yepp prison... And I'm thinking the same thing unfortunately.. Some of these women are blind.

She's definitely still interested but I don't think she wants to be. (if that makes any sense)

The problem I'm having is getting the meetup.. She just says idk, and that she is worried she'll have feelings for me re-emerge.

Thanks for your help! I feel like once my foot is in the door its no problem, or maybe I should wait for her BF to get out of jail, then re-approach because she'll feel less guilty.

Stop "trying" and just do it. When you say you "try to set up a date" I'm going to go ahead and assume that you are ASKING her to meet up with you. TELL HER to meet up with you instead.

Do this... try not asking a question for a whole week when you're talking to people. Make statements instead. You'll see how much differently people react to you when you act as if you are an authority figure.

Hmm I'll try that. I'll even let you know how it goes. Starting now.

So true, it works with numbers, getting her to your home, etc. Everything, if you ask you'll put yourself in a lesser position. Which does not make you alfa. It makes you weak, asking for permission. Who the fuck is she to ask permission to

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Definitely. Give us some type of results after a few days.