I know I'm doing things all wrong. Oneitis, putting the pussy on a pedestal. Whatever. But I'd appreciate feedback.

Anyway, I reestablished contact with this girl a little while back after finding out that she wasn't seeing her man anymore. Planned on meeting up, but she was out of town for the Christmas holidays. We got talking while she was away and it turned very sexual (pics etc.). We met up once she got back, things went well. We didn't seal the deal, but she was all over me and we kissed and whatnot.

However the next day she tells me she's not over her ex, and that she's a wreck because it ended badly (he cheated). Can we be friends etc. Being the newbie I am, I acted the nice guy, treated her as a victim and was like "cool, let's be friends". Wrong move, I know.

It's also worth noting that she's stressing out incredibly regarding her future/education, which I personally don't think is helping the situation.

Now comes the part where I'm confused. She calls me the same night, we laugh a little and then the conversation goes sexual and I get her off on the phone. She then proceeds to send me more things the days after.

I like this girl. I know there are millions more out there and I shouldn't concern myself too much about her, but I can't change my feelings overnight, I'm just not made that way. And the mixed signals I'm getting are leaving me confused as to what I can expect out of this "friendship".

I've been told by others to play it cool, go with the flow, be her "friend", keep the sexy stuff up and hope for the best. Whilst one person has told me to lay it on the line, be upfront, tell her to get her shit sorted and come back to me when she's of the right frame of mind because she's missing a great opportunity.

Any idea's? I know one that the majority will probably say: Game other girls. I'm trying. I'm learning. But I want to know what to do with this specific situation and girl. It's surely going to help me learn.

Cheers.

Anyone?

I liked your post man. To the point with all the proper information. For the most part you already fuckin know what you need to do. I will say these few things, view the shitty ex-boyfriend crap like it just another minor test to overcome. the whole concept of, what your saying doesn't really matter its your tonality personality and actions that matter, also applys to some of the stuff youve said that you view as a mistake. drive forward keep gaming her. tell her in your actions you still wanna bump uglies. keep a very sexual frame keep trying to kiss her and she will get it. i think this is a perfect time to either kino the whole situation into the ground or kino her into the sheets. be touchy but not creepy. it can be a fine line when your dealing with a sad chick. keep talking like the nice guy that im sure you are, but take the actions of the guy that wants to get laid.

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Here's what you do... Go fuck other girls.

Dude, let me make this logical for you.... There are currently over 7 BILLION people on this planet and you want the one who not only doesn't want you but also has baggage from a current (even though they broke up, it's still current) relationship. #CmonMan