You could start by talking to her.
I can only guess what went wrong, but I assume you are lacking some... What's the word? Pondus? Being out with this girl three nights, kissing her and everything, but still not taking it anywhere. That's your issue here I think. You need to escalate, and in order to do that you need to be determined and confident, know what you want and just go for it! A little bit more alpha-male, so to say.
When you say that you "don't just want to fuck her" you give me the vibe of someone who will be friend-zoned very soon. Or just rejected. I'm sorry to say that. Embrace your sexuality and "let the beast out". Imagine yourself standing really close to this girl looking her into her eye, horny as hell, breathing heavily as if you are just about to eat her up for dinner... But you hold back, able to wait a little longer for the good stuff, and she can see how you struggle, which turns her on. That's the mood you should try to create next time you meet a girl.
