Hello all, new to this, just starting to understand the basic "matrix". Here is my question: how does all of this work when you meet a girl on a sexually themed website. That surely calls for several adjustments due to: a) A different initial interaction than one might experience at a night club and certainly different than a book store: generally you've already seen each other naked. b) A nonrandom sampling of the population, not that many girls use these sites.

Here is my story, which could probably be generalized somewhat. I'm a member of Fetlife, here is a place where a comment in response to a picture such as "God I wanna fuck you!" would hardly raise an eyebrow. People have varying comfort levels as far as transitioning to a real life encounter but this is difficult to gauge simply through reading a profile and messaging back and forth, but in theory everybody wants to fuck.

I came up with some stupid excuse to message this girl who I fancied. We had a couple brief exchanges and I asked her if she'd like a "special" video. She had 160 pictures on her profile, many nudes, I have like 3 and they're clothed. I don't have much confidence with girls, that's why I came here to learn, but I do look very good naked, so I prefer to steer things in that direction to highlight my strengths.

So I talked to her while I fantasized about her and got off, sending her the video. I'd have never thought this would be successful until I met several girls on this website who were very vocal about wanting this and loved the videos that I made them, sending me detailed replies about how hard they got off watching. This particular girl isn't that attractive by conventional standards, she's a big girl with lots of peircings and ink. But she probably get's lots of guys who try to hook up with her at least on the site and perhaps in real life given her personality. When she saw my video she said that she giggled and blushed and that she had never had one of those before. I might have raised her self esteem, but I'm not sure that I turned her on.

The wisdom of my preceding actions being whatever it is, how do I proceed now? Is the situation retrievable? And at this point how to transition towards a real life encounter?