Yo!
How do you become a confident beast that do what he want, and ain't afraid of what people think of him?

I am quit shy, but if i first talk to someone it goes OK. Last summer, i got alot of stares from hot girls, but did not know what to do. what would you have done?

I am a guy who trains, a little fit. But until next summer i will have toned muscle (fitness body-ish). Will this help to attract girls?
I work out for me in the first place, but attraction would be a great side-effect!

Do you have small mindtricks that slowly convert you into a confident guy?

Looking good helps but is not necessary. It will definitely help you get sluts. Its like they say fake it til you make it. Confidence I find is just being comfortable with yourself and not caring what people say or think. Also women like a man who takes charge.

For instance things like telling her to go with you somewhere instead of asking is what women find attractive. So don't necessarily command a woman just say things like you are telling them. Like before I used to ask women if I could have their phone number. Now I just say whats your phone number as if they already agreed to giving me their number. You would be surprised at how much more successful I have been with just that little adjustment.

My biggest tip is to just be proud of who you are and if you talk with enough enthusiasm and passion a woman will take that as confidence. Also don't be afraid of rejection. Think of dating as a batting average. If you are batting at .250 you are doing well.

Thanks!
what do you mean by batting?

do you have som "exercises" to get confidence?

So looking good does help? Thats good to know is it just sluts that get attracted? are sluts a bad thing?

I am 17, never had a girlfriend. EVER. And i usually sit at home, almost never party, i want a sociallife with parties and so on, can someone help med with this?

Always remember to look your best when you go out, it helps a lot.
Getting in shape can also boost your confidence, so keep it that way.

One more thing you have to know is that women want you, but they don't show it. Always assume anything that comes in your way as an signal and go for it. If you never try, you'll never know if they really liked you or not, and you will regret every move you DIDN'T make when you had the chance to. Live life, don't have any regrets, go for any girl without thinking about the consequences. Soon, you'll have fun stories to tell and you'll gain experience. It's a win-win situation.

I was just using dating as a baseball analogy. As in relating striking out to striking out in baseball. You can't do any confidence exercise. If you're in school play sports. Play any sports in school. In high school its much tougher to change your reputation because your image is set already. Its tougher because what you do has social repercussions.

I would say look to meet girls outside of school first. That will help improve your skills. What are your hobbies? Get some hobbies and meet people outside. Go to the mall and talk to girls man. Just read this forum on how to talk to girls. I suggest David D'Angelo's double your dating. I think it is a good book and straight to the point. Tony Clink Lay guide is good too.

I will give you some quick tips I wish I knew back then.

1. Be social and talk to everyone. Learn to be social and try talking to most everyone you run across. This will make it easier to meet more people and women. It will also give you a bigger social circle. The more people who know you will mean the more popular you are. You will become better at striking conversations with people.

2. Talk to women about the women you are seeing and make sure women see you talking to other women and hanging out with them. If you end up in the friend zone with a girl because you screwed up you can still use her as a friend for other girls to see you with. Women like men who are desirable and when they see you with an attractive woman that makes you more desirable.

3. Don't be the nice guy. Have a backbone women don't like a man who lets them walk all over them. Make it seem like the woman is lucky to be with you and not the other way around.

4. Don't put your apples all in one basket. Try to get with multiple women at once because more than likely many of them will not pan out.


Last thing the best way to seem confident is body language. Stand tall, walk with your head up and have strong eye contact with women.