So iv been quite active over the holidays meeting girls but this one im unsure where i stand. So I pull the girl in a club...we were both out with a friend who left but she wanted to stay and asked if i would stay with her, which i did and kissed her outside and took her back to my place where we had some drinks and snacks but were pretty wasted. Plus her friend was accusing her of ditching her on facebook so that turned into a big mood killer when we arrived and in the morning when she got a taxi home.

At the time my gut told me it was a dead end and not worth following up but i sent a text a few days later to test the water.

me - Did your friend come to her senses and forgive u for ditchgate? btw im the one whos missing a bag of kettlechips
hb - Hi. Sorry i was sleeping last nite. Yeh we're ok now, think im forgiven. Oh ye sorry about that i do get greedy with crisps!

So i kinda tease her crisp and duvet greed and then say that she also managed to make a good impression

hb - haha oops! Should get urself a onesie. Ha thats good i suppose altho duno how!
me - Would rather take my chances with frostbite than get caught wearing a onesie! I think i know how..but you enjoy your night, go easy on that dancing juice!
hb - Ha my good drunk chat & crisp eating! Hope you have a good nite too
me - Dont sell yourself short! U displayed some good moves in there up until I had to scrape u off the dance floor haha. Happy new year btw:p
hb - Lol. U too hope u had a good nite x

thoughts?

Iv had pretty much no IOIs except that x in the last message but is that an IOI or a fuck off? lol

Just keep gaming her, keep her at arms length, don't rush anything, rome wasn't built overnight. You're still in there. You got the power to decide which way this will go - will you get her, or will you crash and burn.

I was expecting to be told to stop beating around the bush and ask about meeting up...shes not giving me much to work with so get the feeling i should just pull the trigger and be done with it.

Some girls like the direct approach, others don't. You could waste an opportunity by being direct and the girl wanted you to be indirect.

To me, she seems like she wants it indirect. She's not rushing into anything.

You fucked a chick, got her number then text her a few days later and she replied and had a conversation with you.

If she wasn't interested she wouldn't be talking to you right now. Her interest is still there otherwise she would chalk it up to a one night stand and not reply to you.

I'm guessing you didn't have sex with her?

Also, it is important to keep in mind her frame of mind before you decide to poke fun or tease. I am assuming she's probably pretty hung over and in a regretful state, reminding her of embarrassing acts will only put her in a negative frame of mind and basically rendering her un-gameable ( for the present time)


If I were you, I'd give it a couple of days then re-engage. Be sure NOT bring up the night you met or any experiences you shared unless she does and even then make sure its a positive comment. Be friendly, interesting and fun( you may need to re-establish comfort before you can escalate to flirty/sexual.)

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I didn't no.

I did leave it a few days before texting that first message...with the text convo spread over 3 days (thats mostly down to me replying late or next day).

stop gaming over text. Use text for logistics only, i.e. to arrange a meeting.

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There's a huge difference between sending a few texts and sending hundreds.
Girls are extremely fickle. So sometimes I have number, I ask her out, she gives a lame excuse. I exchange a few more text with her over the course of a few days/weeks, ask her out again and she's up for it.
Why? Because girls are fickle.

Just limit these texts to four or five in a day. And space the days. And don't put time and thought into them.

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