I have just red this:

Mystery teaches: "No one has higher value in any venue than yours." I have allways felt 70% of the people prersent in clubs have higher value than I...

Mystery also says: "From now on you are tens." Until 30 minutes ago, I felt I was a 5. And I said, "if I just culd get a bunch of gimmicks from the NO 1 PUAF, and use them on chicks, with heavy labour, I could perhaps become a 6."

How can I change that mentality?

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If you feel that way, then it becomes prophetic. If you think you are a 5, then you will act like a 5. If you think you are a 10, then you will act like a 10.

One exercise that helped me was creating a list of all the reasons I am awesome. I wrote down everything I could think of- from my talent at certain hobbies, to my gpa, to my interest in unusual subjects. Write them all down, and look at them every morning.

Focus on self improvement as well- do at least one thing a day to improve yourself- set daily goals, exercise. I keep a journal where I write down my daily goals.

One thing that I often revert back to when I have my daily goals is reading. Read more. 90% of the population doesn't read, and you will become more intelligent and wiser than them. Plus it can always help your conversations by being knowledgable in a wide variety of areas.

Thanks, good points. I did act like a 5.

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fishwomen... very nice post agreed wholeheartedly...

Webcam... you are suffering from some self-esteem issues... you should feel as if your value is as good anyone else'.... Find a good self-confidence/self-esteem program/book.... follow it closely and that should turn a lot of shit around for you.

Stop listening to Mystery... he also had some serious self-esteem issues.... He believes in "demonstrating high value" those with high value don't need to demonstrate shit...

You need to learn proper body language, dress correctly, exercise, and eat right... that physically should make you as attractive as you can be... this doesn't mean you'll be physically a 10... but you'll be as physically attractive as you can...

As for the rest of attraction... well that is self-belief... know you are attractive.... behaving in a way that a 10 was as fishwomen alluded to...

It's important to realize the thing that makes you most attractive isn't how attractive physically you are but how good you make them feel... that good feeling you give her has a direct correlation to how attractive she feels you are...

For instance if you seen me you wouldn't say I was a "12" out of 10 but multiple women have told me that on more than one occasion... You wouldn't say I was a "fantasy guy" physically but I've still been the object of several women's fantasies... I've been dogged all over my youtube videos because I'm not as physically attractive as some other guys out there (in fact many guys never thought I got laid based off of how I "look")... Yet this fat guy has been referred to as sexy, a fantasy, a 12, way attractive, hot, charming, etc.

It's not just about physical attraction but it certainly helps shit loads when you dress right (which is why I've modified my style and now I get even more attention), but in order for you to be a 10 you need to make her feel good... this is going to be partially physical and but heavily personality, charisma, etc.

Gain a bit of charisma and you'll become a 10 simply by how good you make her feel...

Peace and Love,

Vic

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Low self-esteem is an epidemic, so you are not alone.

The good news is that you recognize your weakness and are looking to improve it.

I'm not going to tell you it's going to be easy. The sources of low self esteem build up over many years from parents, friends, culture, etc., and these things can't be reversed overnight.

Low self-esteem CAN be cured once you realize it's just a product of PERCEPTION.

I can't get into all the psychology and neurology in this post. However, here is one exercise to try, which will highlight what I'm trying to say.

1. Look around the room you're in right now and notice every object that is BROWN.
2. Now, quickly close your eyes and call out every item that you saw that was WHITE.
3. Open your eyes and notice how many white things that you missed.

You likely missed plenty of WHITE items because you were only concentrating on things that were BROWN before closing your eyes.

Now try extrapolating this exercise to yourself.

Are you concentrating more on the positive or negative things about yourself?

Low self-esteem is just a distortion of reality and perspective. Thus, the first step to curing it requires you to look at things in an objective manner.

You say you grade yourself a 5 out of 10. Is that REALLY true?

Go to a mall tomorrow and see if you are worse off than 50% of the males you see. Odds are good you wouldn't want to change places with very many guys you pass. It's just a select few that you are envious of.

I hope that helps, but if you're serious about changing your self-esteem, feel free to PM me and I can give you several exercises from our archive that will help.

Thanks guys. I did a trick, I picked up a HB, now I feel like I am a 6! Big improvement for me.

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How are you a "5"?

Are you just thoroughly mediocre at everything?

If you think you're a 5, you'll always be a 5.

One thing I noticed with girls is that I could keep raising my standards and I kept getting my newer raised standard. The more standards you have, the more you require out of the girls to satisfy you, the better quality of girl you will get.

This ^^

Act as if and you will become. Fake it until you make it... One of the oldest self development mind tricks that there is.

Kinda an old post but it still stands to newcomers.

I'll give personal experience but not with women but an AMOG.

An AMOG gave me shit, tried upstarting me and belittling me on front of an entire group. Immediately I kept my frame and maintained that I was an Alpha(Even though I may not be the most alpha of alpha's naturally). The guy ended up fading away and backing down shortly after it was apparent that I was confident in myself and how I was in my beliefs of myself.

The same can pretty much be said in how you are with women. Hold yourself as a 10 and you will be a 10.

I am saying Mystery was wrong. He shouldnt have said "you must be a 10!" You know why? Because there are hard case students, who must first be 6s, 7s, 8s, 9s and finally 10s. The walkway of development motivates me, not the final destination. I want to take the steps gradually, allmost giving myself a scroll of apreciation after surpassing each level reached. You guys must have been fairly well before pickup I gusess. There are similar guys like e.g. Pradeep from VH1, scially completely unavare, no skills whatsoever, they are 5s.

If I felt like a 10, I would be thinking of quitting as a PUA and start considering professional sailing.

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You are too focused on looks probably. You cannot become a 10 in looks (most likely), but you can become close to a 10 as a MAN, and women are attracted to your value as a MAN, not just your looks.

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Then you are probably right.

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If you feel like a 5, then you need to aim to become a 7.

Frankly, Mystery does not think he's a 10. Which is why he's constantly using cocaine.

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