Hey guys wanna run this past you guys see what you think.
I went out with this cute girl tonight I picked her up the whole date was a surprise she was excited and guessing all day (keep in mind this was a blind date although she saw a pic of me) anyway I took her on the worlds largest or north america's largets ferris wheel escalated well convo was great body language eye contact touching hand holding spot on. From there we were gonna go to this cool little island bar for a concert within walking distance of the ferris wheel. Except the address on their website wasn't right we walk around looking for it we were both freezing so we stop and get warmed up then carry on before too long we're freezing again so I ask someone he's like man you're like 1/2 hour away I'm thinking WTF?!? So the city we were in there's no shortage of stuff to do so I figured fck it I'll freestyle. That did not work well everything that was cool was closed. So we hit up a resteraunt they wouldn't let us in now I'm starting to get a little rattled I don't think visibly, but I did apologize a 3 or for times for the screw up I know I shouldn't have so in the end we hit up a waterfront casino I threw some cash in a machine we joked about what we would do if we hit the jackpot then left I took her home. Convo was solid on the way home, but that freestyle fail was pretty bad. I would like to go out with her again, but right now I'm thinking my best chance is to play her curiosity card let her wonder why I'm not txting/calling and hope she makes contact. Again. Any advice is appreciated thanks!!

I would recommend against doing this.

Just make plans to see her again soon without being needy or desperate. No need to play games to make yourself LOOK not-needy if you're actually not needy.

It is also the inherent responsibility and nature of man to take the initiative. If you somehow force her to take the initiative (like having her contact you first), you're making her violate her natural femininity in a sense, and you'll make her feel like less of a woman.

Just make some better plans for next time, and get more experienced in general around your city so that your improvisations turn out better.

Thanks brother you're right. She seems like a cool girl I would like to go out with her again, but I'm not dependant on any sort of outcome. I txtd her this morning I snapped a pic of the ferris wheel all lit up overlooking the waterfront this morning.

Me: (the pic) hopefully you're warmed up by now lol.
Her: haha yes I am :p

I'm at work now so I can't respond to her, but I'm kinda stuck as far as how to proceed. She was giving me a hard time earlier that if I was lucky enough to get a second date we could go rock climbing. I'm thinking txt her something hinting at that see if she if a day 2 is even a thought with her, if it is switch over to phone call and set up a rock climbing date. Obviously not right away though.

Why didn't you just go home with her afterwards?

I had planned on it, but she was a little tenative and nervous she wanted to meet somewhere I pushed and got her address and picked her up. I made her feel comfortable she was ipen to my escalation, but I felt like I would have had to push to hard with her to get a 1st night lay. So as I was dropping her off I gave one last crack at escalating, but got the impression if I pushed too much further she would have been uncomfortable her ex made her really uncomfortable when they broke up so I thought best to be cool and escalate, but still make her feel comfortable. So I aborted maybe I played it wrong, but it felt like the right play at the time. she's talked about coming over to my hot tub so I'm gonna try and set that up.

Here's an update I txtd her made a joke about last night and kinda hinted to see if a day 2 was on her radar she joked back, but didn't seem to bite at the day 2. So I'm just gonna back off and let her come to me. If she does cool if not oh well I know better for next time.

Sounds like you came across trying to hard to impress. Drinks at a bar and walk would have been fine. But ferris wheel and concert and rock climbing for the second date sounds like too much. When you make a big activity out of meeting a woman, you signal that it's a big deal for you. Girls have guys who do these amazing dates, helicopter rides, VIP football game boxes, and they talk shit about the guy afterwards. Because all they see is that you put alot of effort into them that they haven't earned. Sadly, you've entered this category now. Keep it simple in the future. Show the next girl that you can have as much fun at a dive bar playing pool as she could have at a ferris wheel or concert. I took a chick on a date to Target while I did grocery shopping. After joking around, pinning her up against the towel section and kissing her at 5pm in a Target was the most exciting thing she ever did. No money spent, and she knows that you don't give a fuck and she can have a good time with you WHEREVER.

I totally agree with you and I've had dates like your target one they always end up good. The ferris wheel it was close by $10 for a ticket really not a big deal also the concert was just a local band I had heard before that were good. In the end that's what we ended up doing ferris wheel and a walk. Then we went to check out the casino. I made it sound more extravagent then it really was, but she texted me a couple min ago I got back to some playful banter then left her hanging on a high note, so I'm not gonna write her off yet.

Thanks for the advice I appreciate it!!