Curious what you think of this text. A certain lady, whom I was in an increasingly intimate relationship with, put me suddenly in the one or two word not informative reply zone. After trying to figure out what was going on (unsuccessfully) I've let the conversation go quiet or over a week to see if she replies. She hasn't.

My thought has been to let it go but then I got wondering if that's a sign of defeat.

I've drafted my last reply and wondering what you think and if you have advice.

"So have you had enough time to process your emotions and get back to our regularly scheduled programming?"

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Too heavy.

Light, funny

That text looks a bit too emotionally laden on your part, will come off in a neg way as its a diagnosis of her state.

Ideas?

Let me say that this isnt really a texting relationship but has morphed into that .. and then died. The goal is to pull out of the tail-spin and reestablish "hang out"/confidant status.

Do i not need to worry about whatever the initial reasons for breaking comm was?

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n2thevoid is right... If she's still resenting you for something then twisting the knife isn't going to help... and that message seemed a bit much.

You could maintain the silence and wait for her to break it... But that may not happen.

Maybe dodging the issue entirely is the way to go? Don't mention there's even a problem and text away as you normally would... Tell her you just saw a celebrity tell someone to go fuck themselves while you were out shopping for a speedboat...

That's a shitty example, but you get what I mean. Just use it as a way to re-establish contact without losing (too much) face.

i think that i might not be correctly understanding the purpose/meaning of controlling the frame.
Here i thought that by creating a frame in which she's the one with the problem (and that i'm ready to move on when she's over it), i could assert myself.

Obviously i'm not going to do this now... w/out a specific example, how should i be looking at this?



* been out of the game for over a decade

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we have a ongoing joke about goths; how about this:

"ive noticed my goth twirl is getting a bit rusty"

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