I was on a first date a couple of nights ago in a bar. It was with an HB8 I only knew from facebook, so had a few nerves to begin with, but I managed to settle everything down quite quickly. I'm new to dating, so I made sure I wasn't in my own head so I could read her body language properly.

What I noticed:

She was very fidgety at first. I called her out on it at one point, where she replied that she always fidgets.

She had her legs pointed toward me from the word go

Within an hour of playful chatting, and steady kino escalation, I had her seeming very comfortable with my arm around her and my other hand between her thighs.

She got a bit flustered at this point. All of a sudden, the tops of her arms, her neck and her chest all started to glow bright red, and she become very hot. She even had to take her hair extensions out to cool down. We had a good laugh about it and she tried to blame it on the couple of glasses of red wine she'd had, but I let her know that she wasn't kidding anyone! I've not come across this before in my gaming career to date. Is it a common reaction to arousal in women?

She started to get all touchy herself after that, kept grabbing my hand, stroking my arms.

Got some mixed signals as we left though. She wouldn't hold my hand because she wanted to leave them in her coat pockets as it was cold. Got the k close as we left each other. It was short, but with a bit of tongue from her at the end.

I'm not used to having these kind of effects on women to be honest. I know it looks like she's well into me. Would, or could a woman show any of these things if she wasn't?

Cheers dudes

Slip

Hey man, great field report... I would criticise one thing, though, you should not have waited for the end of the evening to go for the kiss... it's too "Hollywood romance"... other than that, good luck with closing her!

Thanks pal

Yeah I hear you about not going for the K-close earlier. I was looking for the right eye contact to go for it, but we had to leave before I was sure that I'd got her ready for the kiss.

She likes you very much. Even when girls don't show it, deep down they like you, they like the validation you give them if it comes truly, confidently, naturally, congruently. Girls are different from each other, some show you instantly that they like you, some don't show you anything and will even turn you down then wonder why nothing happened if you didn't keep going for it. Some really are hard to get yet deep down they really like you. Know that they do like you and that you are already enough.

Yeah you're right, I know that's what I should be thinking all the time anyway. That level of inner game you have described must take years to develop in my opinion though. Guys will need to have quite a few successful closes under their belt before they have genuine inner certainty like that. I've only just started out really. A lot of the things I'm trying, I've never actually done before. Hence, I'm still trying to draw conclusions from her reactions.

I'd say you are over thinking this one a bit man. Sounds like a great first date from someone with your level of experience and it was great that you didn't let the whole " Its too cold to hold hands" thing bother you - I know a lot of guys that would of gotten thrown off by that.

Every woman is different man; she could of been aroused or it could've of just been the wine.. Who knows? And I'm not too sure I understand the logic behind trying to figure this out.

Just push things further on the next date; you've already sent a lot of her walls crashing down.

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Thanks Skillz.

I'm stuck with this one now for the time being. She's gone back home for Christmas. I'll have to freeze her out for a few weeks until she gets back when I'll arrange a second date. I'll put my efforts into some other targets in the meantime.