As was mentioned above, never assume people are logical. This is for men and women both.
At the time, she was working with limited information so it was easy for her to throw around phrases like that gauge what kind of person you were.
Imagine meeting a super hot girl, then finding out she's been terrorizing ex-bfs with her nutty, controlling personality. Wouldn't that force you to kind of back away say things like, "well I don't want to ruin our friendship" ?
Point being, you were well-established in her mind until you started giving her reasons to doubt you. As soon as she felt the needyness from you, she realized that she doesnt have much more stake in this "game." She already won.
If you TREAT her like a friend, she will come back and start acting normal. For now? It'll look like a "if you can't beat em, join em," move, born out of defeat if you go and ask "lets just be friends."
If she texts you: Be cool and don't try to rekindle anything you had before, it will just validate her assumption of thinking that you are just trying to get with her. This is also a reason girls text you, to kind of boost their ego and gauge interest. Part of her wants you to still want her, part of her doesn't. If you dont succumb, you will come across as "over her", which is a shot at her ego (which is good). This MAY get her looking at you differently, but DON'T count on it. Be cool.
Let me go back to this though:
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Also, I just want to add, this girl asked me about a month ago, when I was still in my relationship, "If you were single, would you ask me out?" WTF??????? I don't get women, but I'm trying to learn.
Going through things like this you'll start putting together a stock of things that she has SAID or DONE. You'll have to analyze whats been said, how shes reacted, what you've said etc. etc. and try to form them in a way that gives you an educated guess as to what to do next. A lot of things will be an essential part of the equation, some will need to be ignored/cut out.
What happens in the beginning will ONLY tell you how much stock she has in her attraction towards you. You'll know if the possibility is there. BUT, she doesnt know anything about your personality so the bulk of the important information will come out following the attraction phase. You can throw out most of the IOIs that she was throwing you during this phase.
Men are remarkably positive when it comes to "I think she's still into me" situations. Its easy to focus on positive events that happened prior to shitty events happening so you can say things like "girls are retarded." Part of it is their fault, part of it is yours, this is how life works usually.
"What have you done for me lately?" is how people think in most aspects of life. Relationships function on timing, spontaneity and social proof. If you WERE funny two months ago, great. But if you ARE funny every time you hang out with her, she's gonna want to hang out with you more, and so are other girls (DHV/social proof). All of this helps in the equation, yet many people still find a way to focus on the one or two good things that they did that makes the situation confusing ("she was into ME first," for example).
Point is, if you see inconsistencies with women, don't trip. Most of the time they are acting in a way that is self-serving and irrational. But that's OK. At times you will be taking advantage of women BECAUSE of the self-serving agenda (she is hooking up with you because she resents an ex that broke up with her, for example). So remember to stay grounded and get perspective on your situation or else you are blinded by your own hope, and that ain't too alpha-male is it?
Hope this helps man.
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