Hey guys, very recently I was rejected by a colleague (to get the whole story: seems-to-be-all-over-or-not-vt172543.html). Bottom line: She said she doesn't feel attracted to me, but she hopes this is gonna change. I replied that it's better that the 2 of us don't hang out anymore, she suggested that we could at least do something together in group, I (totally stupid) accepted. Now she invites me to colleague-events (we have several sports teams at work, and I also was part in one of them BEFORE she came clean. Even worse: I always said that I'm gonna take part in the soccer team, which she's been trying to set up for months). I've turned that down so far, but it gets harder to do that, since no one at work knows what happened between us, and I don't wanna be regarded as "hurt" by not attending the sport teams anymore just because of her. Other colleagues already asked me why I don't participate even though I always said yes in the first place.. What do you think?
Should I just tell her in her next message that by "not hanging out together" I meant everything apart from work-related acitivites (like Christmas party for colleagues)? It's quite complicated since I see her every day (we also car-pooled together). So how to handle messages from her? I tried to stay aloof of her the whole week, but I still don't know how to deal with her "casual" messages that she started sending at the end of the week. And as a colleague, we still need to work together every day, so I can't just completely ignore her ..
Thanks in advance for your help!!!!

Hey man, you should limit time spent with her to the job requirements. No texting, no hanging out with her + other colleagues. You need not justify to your colleagues why you are not attending the sports activities; claim not enough time for your other (stronger) interests if and when they ask. As well, you need not justify anything to her, that's really beta... and car pool with somebody else or drive alone if you have to, rather than spend daily an hour or so in her company... It's not healthy for you... in a nutshell, keep interaction with her strictly business, nice and polite but not friendly or flirty...

dont shit where you eat

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Read pumpingtons text logs and send some of the shit he sends out to her. You're overthinking too much.

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Hey guys, thanks for your answers, really help me a lot. Really sucks to see her every day, but I just shut her attempts of communicating with me via SPAM down qucikly, don't ask any questions till she gives up (what she seems to have done by now). At work she appears to be quite pissed actually, no talking, just avoiding, I think we're on the right track here! Thanks again, I'll keep you up to date!