So been about a year since I've known this girl. We'd hang out on occasion (had sex numerous times) and I wasn't real into it but as of lately we've been hanging out more and starting to really like her. I've noticed I've started doing nice things for her, sticking up for her when people talk shit about her at work. Treat her to lunch whatever... ask her to hang out more on weekends... but I've noticed a bit of distance on her part. Sometimes not returning text messages when I ask her to come over. Taking advantage or mistaking my kindness for weakness. We recently got into it at work and haven't spoke in a week. Should I back off or confront?
Thanks!

With the information you’ve provided, it sounds like she’s really into you and was expecting more. You are being pretty casual about this “relationship” right?

There’s a good chance she wanted this fling to actually turn into relationship, however, you seem to be on a different wave length in terms of what you want out of this.

I think she wants to date and is now feeling used for booty calls etc.

So the next questions is, what do YOU want out of it?

If you were acting in an attractive manner and she fell in love for you, why would you stop and be a nice guy after? For me it would be that, at least for the information I read. Well, anyway, just let her know what you want and what you expect from her, but first think yourself what kind of relationship do you want with her, if you take too much, she'll look for another.

I agree you reframed from sexy alpha to kiss-ass nice guy, I made that mistake a few times immediately went backbto original frame, interest returns. Some girls don't want a guy to be "nice" even once a relationship is underway, to them it is boring.

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Thanks for the responses. We haven't spoken in a week because of something that happened work related where I know for a fact she was in the wrong. (Back to that taking the things I do for her for granted) So do I cave and contact her first or wait for her to contact me. I can tell we're both waiting for the other to contact. I just don't want to be the chump and contact first because I'll look too desperate.

yeah i guess i have been and maybe for that very reason of going all in... im slowly going there but her recent behavior has me thinking otherwise or maybe she's really not that interested or just wants to keep it how it is now. when i send a text asking her to stop by later and she doesn't respond makes me think maybe shes not that into it. shes very wishy washy. one night she wants to hang out and get shitfaced next night don't even hear from her.