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PostPosted: Mon Oct 21, 2013 9:19 pm 
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Didn't see this one coming... Went out on a day 2 and heavy kino + k-closed during date and she even kissed me a good night.. She seems interested all night but two days later I text her and ask her if she is busy tomorrow night and she sends me this:

"Listen your a really nice guy and any girl would be lucky to have you but i don't think we would work out"

I don't think I played the nice guy card too much but maybe she saw that and somehow lost interest. The date went well also so I am a little in shock... How do I reply? Or do I even reply to this??

Also... I feel like her friend who joined us afterwards (who ended up 3rd wheeling because her date bailed) must have also said something. She seemed like a girl who was getting jealous when we were together most of the night...


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PostPosted: Mon Oct 21, 2013 10:57 pm 
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if you get that line...I feel that somewhere along the way, you lost your way...

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PostPosted: Mon Oct 21, 2013 11:04 pm 
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if you get that line...I feel that somewhere along the way, you lost your way...
I really didn't see that coming and part of me think its a bad joke on her... I really didn't play that whole nice guy shit and went for the kiss like a boss early in the date and showed confidence... This date went way better than the 1st yet somehow she doesn't want to see me... I don't know the deal but how should I respond to this?!?


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PostPosted: Mon Oct 21, 2013 11:35 pm 
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At least she let you know, most women don't. Think that says a lot about her. I would just say something casual and at least be friendly to her, especially if you are going to run into her again. Don't act shocked or let down, just be nonchalant in your reply. GOOD LUCK


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PostPosted: Tue Oct 22, 2013 12:31 am 
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She just sent me a real long text saying she didn't want to sound cliche and all but she thinks its her, she said she is just not over her ex and i was the first guy she dated or even talked to since she has been single... she also says she didnt want to lead me on because i treated her nice so had to be upfront, in summary...

i feel she is really genuine but i still would like to keep the door open for something in the future if she gets back in it emotionally, but as for now i will move on... how should i keep that bridge open?


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PostPosted: Tue Oct 22, 2013 1:14 am 
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She just sent me a real long text saying she didn't want to sound cliche and all but she thinks its her, she said she is just not over her ex and i was the first guy she dated or even talked to since she has been single... she also says she didnt want to lead me on because i treated her nice so had to be upfront, in summary...

i feel she is really genuine but i still would like to keep the door open for something in the future if she gets back in it emotionally, but as for now i will move on... how should i keep that bridge open?
ignore it completely and continue gaming as usual, it has nothing to do with you,


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PostPosted: Tue Oct 22, 2013 1:16 am 
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if you get the "nice guy" line your're usually screwed. You said you ran decent game which you probably did, maybe it just wasn't tight enough, sometimes you can run solid game and still get nothing. Ive gone on day 2's, ran good game and I'm thinking (yep I'll get her) and for whatever reason they just don't fuck you. It's just one of those things even if your game is good some will still shoot you down.

However I still think if you happen to see her again you probably got a chance, she might've put you on some mental standby list. Dont hold ya breath but.

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PostPosted: Tue Oct 22, 2013 1:34 am 
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normally i would yell BS, especially since shes a nice girl and doesn't want to hurt me... i dont know if im being a fool but part of me believes her, i creeped on her twitter couple weeks ago and she had two tweets that stood out...

1 was RIGHT after our 1st date saying something like: "Ahhh just went out on a date!! Kind of like this guy, lets see how it all plays out"
then a couple days later she writes something like "hate dreaming about my ex, always brings back old feelings"

I knew that was a red flag but since I was out of town for another month I thought her feelings for her ex would cool off, guess they havent... and id like to think my game was solid at best, i mean i went for the first kiss in the middle of the date and it showed a lot of confidence the way i grabbed her... and at the end of the night she made sure she kissed me, so this one REALLY caught me off guard... especially since she introduced me to her friend and how she mentioned that she told her parents about me...

I just really like this girl considering she got me over the last girl i dated so i would like to keep the door open, but i know i wont be running into her in my daily routine so i really dont know what i should do to be around when she is ready, assuming she is being real...

but yeah ill keep gaming, im glad this one didnt hurt as much as the last girl that ditched me without saying a word... closure is good


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PostPosted: Tue Oct 22, 2013 1:51 am 
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Ok yep that says a lot. Ex issues can paralize girls for months not much you can do about it. Stay in vague contact, maybe a text once a fornight, and wait until she soughts her shit out. This has happened to me and often you'll get a text down the track basically saying "yep let's Fuck". Patience is the key here.

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PostPosted: Tue Oct 22, 2013 1:53 am 
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I mean, it could really be her and not you. Sometimes we forget that women are also individuals with their own set of problems. Maybe it's a too soon kind of thing for her and it has nothing to do with you. If she is still hung up on her ex, then don't take it personally.

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PostPosted: Tue Oct 22, 2013 2:21 am 
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Ok yep that says a lot. Ex issues can paralize girls for months not much you can do about it. Stay in vague contact, maybe a text once a fornight, and wait until she soughts her shit out. This has happened to me and often you'll get a text down the track basically saying "yep let's Fuck". Patience is the key here.
I'm so caught off guard... I'm out of the country for a month so I won't contact her at least till I'm back but what do I tell her now? And when I do contact her what should I even say?
Even if she is being genuine does this mean she doesn't want to see me again or does she just need space?

What should I even say in a reply to all that? Do I just be cold and say "No hardfeelings, nice knowing you"? Or do I say I can give her space and if anything changes to hit me up? OR just not reply and hit her up in a month asking how she is?

Help me end this on a good note to a point where she will consider giving me another shot. I have no problem being patient and trying to move on but if there is a chance to spark this one up I would like that... I mean I feel like I planted a good enough seed that she would still consider something in the future if I at least end it right and not burn any bridges... I showed her I am ambitious, DHV'd, she seemed to have a good time with me... Doesn't seem like she has many other options since she basically waited a month to see me again because I was out town for work...


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it probably has nothing to do with you. Just back off a lil bit and let her handle her shit. Talk to other girls... I think this one will come around, I've had a girl act exactly like this. She'll come around, but don't waste all of your focus on her right now.

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PostPosted: Tue Oct 22, 2013 3:33 am 
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Well should I ignore her essay long text or reply with something? Besides that I'll go NC for a while


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PostPosted: Tue Oct 22, 2013 2:32 pm 
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Makes me cringe how she brings up nice guy... smh


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PostPosted: Tue Oct 22, 2013 6:35 pm 
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From what you said you haven't done anything wrong, it's all on her not you.


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